u/HotBrilliant1012

Problem/Goal: How should my roommate and I split the time we use the air conditioning

Context: I sleep around 3 am, wake up at 11 am, and stay in bed until 12 pm because I have an afternoon class. Meanwhile, my roommate is a night-shift VA working from home. She sleeps at 12 pm and wakes up at 8 pm. Since she sleeps at a time that is too hot, I just let her use the AC. She will turn on the AC around 9 am or sometimes 10 am, then turn it off once she wakes up, so the AC runs 10-11 hours a day. However, there are many times when I can't sleep properly because it's still hot, even with my electric fan. I would also wake up early in the morning because I could feel myself sweating. Then one day, our electric bill came, and it cost Php 5500 for just the two of us in a small apartment. Our usual bill is always around 2-4k. So, out of panic, I turned the AC off since it was already 5 pm. 10 minutes later, she got up looking irritated and didn't talk to me for a day, which I understand completely because I just turned the AC off, so I apologized.

Previous Attempts: I told her we should limit AC use and split it properly, because I sometimes can't sleep from the heat even though it's not noon yet. I suggested that she turn it on at 8 am, and I will turn it off at 4 pm, so the AC will only run for 8 hours a day. I'm not sure whether she liked the idea, since she hasn't said anything yet. Do you think this is fair?

I’ve been with this friend group for 12 years already, and sila lang talaga yung active friend group ko ngayon. Hindi kami yung type of friendship na sweet or uplifting. More on bardagulan talaga kami ever since, and honestly minsan nakakapagod na rin. Ang dami nang moments before na I felt disrespected, pero pinapalagpas ko na lang kasi iniisip ko baka joke lang or hindi naman nila meant. Pero this year parang mas dumadalas na talaga.

For context, pretty silang lahat like social media pretty, and I feel like I'm the least attractive one. Lagi nilang ginagawang joke yung appearance ko. Kunwari pag may picture kami sasabihin nila “bakit ganyan mukha mo hindi nakaka-aesthetic” because of my pose or look, tapos tatawa silang lahat. Syempre makikitawa na lang din ako.

There is also this one time, si friend 1 pumunta sa condo ko nang unannounced kasi sad daw siya and need mag-vent. Sanay naman na ako kasi yung condo ko lagi naming tambayan since ako lang yung solo living sa amin. So habang nagkukuwento siya, nagyaya siya sa Zus Coffee. Nasa baba lang naman ng condo yung Zus, so hindi na ako nag-ayos or nagbihis. Super comfortable ko kasi sa kanya, so I thought okay lang.

Not until nung time na pinicturan niya pala ako without me knowing tapos sinend sa GC namin with the caption “look who I’m with.” Then ayun they made fun of me again. “Ang chaka.” “Bakit may katulong kang kasama?” Stuff like that. I didn't know about that until friend 1 told me, "Tignan mo yung gc, magreply ka," while smiling as if she was proud of something.

And honestly, sobrang nasaktan ako doon. Lately, sobrang insecure ko sa sarili ko, and I’ve really been trying to work on myself. Tapos maririnig mo yung ganung comments from people you love? It made me want to cry nung moment na yun. Kasi ako, I would NEVER do that to them. Ako pa yung type of friend na nanghahype up lagi. Pag may napansin akong maganda sa kanila sasabihin ko talaga. I know how bad it feels to be insecure kaya hindi ko gets bakit ang dali lang sa kanilang gawin sakin yun.

And also the fact that you came here unannounced para pinakinggan ko yung problems mo, just for you to humiliate me for laughs? Hanggang ngayon hindi ko gets anong point nung pag-send niya ng picture.

Then eto na yung parang last straw ko.

Nagmovie night ulit kami sa condo ko then randomly sinabi ni friend 2 na nung one week daw siyang nagstay dito, pinatulog ko lang daw siya sa sala. Which is technically true kasi sa sofa bed siya natulog BUT she's the one who insisted. Studio type lang condo ko with partition, tapos single bed lang meron ako sa loob kasi maliit yung room (iykyk). I even offered na sa floor nalang siya katabi ng bed ko since may extra mattress naman ako, pero ayaw niya kasi baka wala na raw akong daanan. Hindi ko rin sinasara yung partition because I know that would be rude.

Pero she made it sound like pinabayaan ko siya sa sala, as if masama akong friend. Tapos nung nage-explain ako, cinut off lang nila ako with “’wag ka na mag-explain,” tapos nagtawanan sila.

After that, hindi ko na sila kinausap.

I know communication is important and maybe I should’ve told them directly how hurt I was, pero part of me gusto kong marealize nila on their own how mean they’ve been to me. Pero instead ang messages lang na nakukuha ko are “mag-reply ka naman” or “anong kaartehan to.”

Now after weeks of no contact, nami-miss ko rin sila minsan. We’ve been friends for 12 years eh. Ang dami naming memories and we would always laugh about silly things. Pero I realized din na ako lang lagi yung punching bag nila. They never make fun of each other’s appearance the way they do of mine.

And honestly? This friendship is starting to take a toll on my mental health already.

I’m sad about it, but parang gusto ko nalang umalis quietly.

hi im a student with an acne prone skin and yung acne ko usually malalaki na parang bukol. may maire recommend po ba kayong dermatologist around taft or paco na less than 5k yung magagastos for medicine and skincare? nagtry po kasi ako magpaconsult last week sa isang dermatologist and umabot po ng 7.5k yung bill ko including medicine and skin care. hindi ko na tinuloy bilhin yung mga reseta since galing lang din po sa allowance ko yung ipambabayad ko :((