u/HotDopamine

Incenstual level desire

Last night, I was up all night scrolling through confession groups and I accidentally stumbled into a place where mothers were confessing their sexual desires for their own sons. I was shocked by how many people were active in there, just watching and reading. I stayed and read every single post, but only from the mothers' side.

​The thought of the act itself is repulsive to me. It’s a complete breakdown of how things should be.

​But I couldn't look away because I was fascinated by the sheer intensity of it. My brain is wired in a way where I don't have a middle ground, it’s either nothing at all, or it's everything. I’ve always hated boundaries and personal space because they feel like a wall that shouldn't be there. When I’m not completely connected or in sync with someone, I feel it physically. My muscles tighten and pull against my bones until my whole body just aches.

​What I saw in those posts was a level of "action-crazy" hunger and unfiltered want that actually matches the volume of what I feel inside. It was a raw display of someone being completely consumed by another person, where every social rule and moral filter just burned away. I am disgusted by the subject matter, but I am obsessed with that level of desire. It’s a depth of "want" that makes the rest of the world feel thin and quiet.

​It’s a strange thing to realize that while most of the world is playing it safe, there is this raw, all-consuming intensity happening in the dark.

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u/HotDopamine — 14 days ago

Obsessive in the wrong era

Trouble navigating

Professionally, I’m high-functioning and built for precision, but personally, I feel like I’m operating on a frequency no one else can hear. I know that my AuDHD and Alexithymia have created a "Binary" life: For me, it is State 0 (Total Stranger) or State 1 (Total Merger). I have no middle gear.

​I’ve reached a point of extreme frustration. It feels like the women I encounter, especially in my own generation, lack the actual depth or intensity to handle the way I’m wired. Most people want "polite" social distance and slow-burn boundaries. I hate boundaries. To me, a boundary feels like a failure. Once I let someone in, I want the walls to vanish. I want to be completely consumed by the connection.

​The reason this is so urgent for me is that rejection or a lack of synchronization isn't just an "emotion", it’s literal physical agony. My muscles clench against my bones, it feels like a migraine is radiating through my entire skeleton. I’ve stopped sharing my thoughts with most people because the physical cost of being misunderstood is just too high.

​I also have a massive sex drive, but I’ve realized it’s my primary way of regulating my nervous system. Because of my hyper-empathy, I physically feel my partner's pleasure in my own body. It’s a raw, high-voltage reset that silences the static in my head. I crave a woman whose hunger is as loud and "action-crazy" as mine, but I find that modern "emotional fluff" gets in the way of that raw depth.

​I’m just stumbling onto this sub, but I’m curious, does a woman actually exist who wants to be the singular focus of a man’s life and merge at a cellular level? Or is my intensity just a "bug" in a world that’s become too quiet? Is this the wrong group to ask?

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u/HotDopamine — 14 days ago

I am disgnosed with with Autism and secondary Psychopathy. I've known since I was a child and now I'm almost hitting 40, but I never disclose this information to anyone as I have an extremely high sex drive, I'm hyper sexual and as you can imagine there is a stigma around people with psychopathy, (with good reason)

Because of my high sex drive, I keep this information to myself so that I can get what I want or actually need. At first, I would be very conservative with my sexual deeds and the more comfortable my partner gets, the more adventures I would get, till they ultimately realise that I'm a little different. I would then gaslight them in believing that I actually do these things for them as I've never been with anyone so sexually vanilla.

There are some days that I would feed this poisonous dream that I would meet someone who would actually really like the real me, but I get repulsed by the idea of anyone loving me.

The relationship would usually end with me accusing my partners of being emotionally shallow, using me to live out their fantasies or still being in love with their ex. As long as I have this strong sexual drive and urges, I don't think my patterns will ever change.

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u/HotDopamine — 15 days ago