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Hi! My little sister just moved in with my husband and I. She moved several states to hopefully find better work that she enjoys and to “be closer to family” (even though I’m the only family here)
I’m unfortunately feeling a bit of the reality hit of her moving all the way here, away from her support structure. I’m super terrified I’m going to be her only outlet or support - and she has always felt her emotions quite powerfully and has had the depression part easier than anything else.
Some good:
- she has found a medication combination that she likes, and keeps her relatively balanced. She will still experience a mania or a depression, but it has to really be triggered. (Im quite worried a gigantic move across the country will trigger something)
- she has a lot of job prospects. All in stuff she’s excited for, one super hopefully has health insurance.
Some bad:
- her roomate and partner came with her to help her move. I definitely picked up on a sort of weird codependent vibe from them, and they babied her emotions a lot. I do not want to have to treat her that way, and she really struggles with hard conversations.
- she is in IMMENSE debt. Way underwater on a car loan she got for god knows why. She spends like crazy on anything and everything, even outside of mania. Not including health bills. Lots of credit card debt.
- she also has a large dog, a cat, and a snake. She cannot afford them, and I don’t want to end up being their caretaker when she is down.
I am not sure what to expect from her. I do not want to have to be her parent, and I’m struggling with the potential that she’s going to want me to solve her problems for her. I’m even more worried that she’s going to get worse because of me, because I just don’t have the ability to care for her in the way she might need.
I love her very much, and I want her to experience a life that is balanced and healthy, but I’m terrified I have signed up for a lot of responsibility I was not knowingly walking into. Any advice will be really, really appreciated.