u/Hot_Club3501

No contact for a month and a half.

Just a couple of short anonymous messages from her that said nothing meaningful - like she was checking up on me.

I sincerely thought I would not hear from her again.

Then out of the blue, she blew up my phone, my emails and went crazy guilting me, saying I needed to attend a certain responsibilities relating to our shared house ( it turns out her grandmother had not been able to get her money, and she was getting evicted...hmm.)

Then she went on a public forum and trashed me publicly, calling me all kinds of names and using my real legal name.

Finally, after resisting for a day, i answered her phone call.

She launched into emotional hysterics and confessed she missed me, she was very loving and warm and nice and normal.

She switched from guilting me and being a cold dickhead, to being warm and confessing she missed me in a matter of moments.

I fell right into it.

I confessed I missed her.

We spent the past ten days having a reconnection and doing pretty good.

But in those ten days, there were two complete meltdown, blow ups, over really minor stuff.

She broke up with me twice.

She launched into the usual BPD GARBAGE, stressful, accusing me of things, being toxic, making threats, projecting, gaslighting, Darvo.

The usual shtick.

One minute she's normal, the next she is a monster.

What is wrong with these idiots?

I tried my best to not escalate, reassure, to be loving and caring. I'm not sure.It even matters with these people.

Again, she blew everything up over two silly things - she thought I was sending her money and misinterpreted it, and didn't get the money the way she was expecting.

The second time I didn't greet her in the morning via text the way she wanted - even though I sent a heart reaction and asked her how she was doing.

It is so stressful being with someone like this. You never know 1 day to the next weather it's going to be okay, or if they are going to blow it up.

She seems to have really ended it - cutting me off and bringing up how she wants to bring detectives and cops in to examine our relationship messages. Like, what?

Absolute flipping idiot.

I feel like i've been too nice to this person. I feel like i've been giving them excuses for their behavior. I feel like I put up with way too much. I feel like i've let the fear they used to control me, control my responses to them.

The truth is, i'm sick of what a destabilizing, toxic, insecure, jealous imbecile they are. Zero accountability. Zero self awareness. Nothing but entitlement and projection.

If i'm so terrible, why is she spending time with me and happy? Then the next minute she's talking about how I wouldn't "let her" break up with me six months ago? They are just not even human. Their words mean nothing.

I still try to send a loving message. I don't want to be toxic back. But there's only so much a person can take. I'm not sure I can take any more of her destabilizing behavior.

My ex abuser is losing her house, being kicked out because of damage her kids caused to it.

Now she has re engaged, it seems because she needs something.

Today:

- text message trying to guilt me

- a couple of anonymous weird emails

- she went on a public forum and publicly trashed me using my real full name and middle name, said all kinds of heinous, derogetory things. Its defamation I got screenshots.

- texted me to use a encrypted msgr where the messages aren't saved. A pattern of wanting to use anonymous accounts and avoid documentation and accountability.

- she actually placed a phone call, but I hung up.

- text me that we need to talk, after ignored, her sent more shaming messages like I was just so horrible for not helping her.

- she's basically saying, I need to go over there and do things and help and take care of things, things I have nothing to do with and are not my responsibility.

It's interesting, she's reengaging once reality is setting in. She's losing the house that I paid for because she can't take care of it.

Think of the audacity: goes and publicly trashes me using my real name, then send more text and calls acting like nothing happened and expecting me to actually answer and help her.

These people are insane, delusional...well, thryre narcissits.

I did not respond whatsoever at all.

I walked through everything with the help of some chatbots to document all of it.

I have not sent a "Do not contact me" note though. The chatbots, like claude have suggested to let her continue to document some of the behavior so that we have documentation.

It's so hard not to say the truth to these people. I've spent a month holding my tongue, and i've about had it.

This model is incredibly good at taking an uploaded picture particularly of a person and replicating it. 2.6 Standard is also superb, but capped at ten seconds.

The newer models fail in this area. This is even true for some of the other newer AIs.

Seedance 4.5 is unmatched, 5.0 lite is awful for images.

Seedsnce 2 is terrible when using video and uploading a source image of a person.

Grok Imagine is terrible with source human images, often rejects them, so do google products like Veo.

This is just my experience anyone else?