she's been indifferent to my husband and me from the beginning. we showed up to her school events (sports, drama), gave her $50-$100 birthday presents, $150-$200 christmas presents, celebrated her wins like getting an A on a test, gave her tickets to see taylor swift, occasionally was her chauffeur to take her to events, and will give her 1k for college.
she's made it clear we aren't her real family and that she wishes her dad never married my sil (there was no cheating). she doesn't want to meet my 5 month old because my baby isn't related to her.
she also has told me that since my parents are rich (she has been to my parents house), I should have bought her a car for her 16th birthday.
my husbands says we should just mail her presents and now that's she's an adult, she's not going to want her step family in her life, so we won't have to see her. he said it'll be a jerk move to give her half brother (our nephew) presents and not her as well. plus it's not going to hurt us financially to be kind.