Long term friends drifting away
I’m going to try to summarize this but it’s been a long journey. I just graduated high school May 2025 and am 19F . A majority of my friends I met in elementary or middle school and am still friends with now, and are closer than ever. This friend 19F I’ve known since the second grade and we’ve been so close and so deep and fulfilling, type of friends that don’t need to see encounter everyday or text all the time but when you do hang out it’s like nothings changed. After graduation we hung out a couple times but I started college and she’s been working and moved out to live by herself. Lately every time we would hang out it would be me reaching out to her, going out of my way to make contact, sending memes, reels, check in texts, nothing reciprocated, it feels very one sided now. I even texted her a couple months ago asking if she was okay mentally and if there was anything she needed from me and if everything was okay between us, that I loved her. She said “ no everything’s fine” didn’t say I love you back. She posted on her instagram close friends some satire joke saying all her friends hated her and I replied like no I love you so much are you alright? She posted a story minutes later saying “ that was clearly a joke” and that felt hurtful, how am I suppose to know when you don’t tell me anything anymore? I stopped reaching out just to see if we would even hang out when I’m not the one asking and it’s been months. I sent her this text, I’m trying to be as kind as possible to not illicit a defensive reaction, am I going about it the right way? Sorry for the long post I tried my best.
“Hey (name)I hope you’re doing well! I’ve really missed you it’s been a long time since we’ve really talked at all. I left the groupchat cause we don’t really use it, also I’ve been feeling super distant from you in general and it worries me, i remember I had texted you not too long ago about it and you said everything was fine but I still had felt really uneasy about it and unsatisfied with the short interaction in general. I hope you’re doing okay mentally and physically and wish you happiness and love in whatever you’re doing, and whatever relationships you’re forming at the moment. I just want to say I personally feel like we’re just growing apart and drifting away, I’d appreciate your input , I can accept if that’s the reality I just would like to have some closure from your end. Anyways have a good night gorgeous!”