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It’s been over six months since we broke up, and apart from a few brief conversations, we’ve basically been no contact the whole time. I honestly thought time would make things easier, but I’m still struggling to move on. The hardest part isn’t even the breakup anymore. It’s everything I found out afterwards. During our relationship, he convinced me he was someone completely different. Later, I discovered multiple Reddit accounts where he had been posting nude photos of himself and looking for people to video call while we were still together. Whether someone calls that cheating or not, it completely destroyed the trust I had in him. Looking back, I feel like I was in love with a version of him that never really existed. The strange thing is… despite everything, I don’t hate him. Part of me still wishes we could have had one honest conversation instead of months of silence, blocking, and unanswered questions. I probably would have forgiven more than most people think if he had simply been honest. I’m trying to move on. I’m focusing on work, the gym, meeting new people, and my own life. Some days I genuinely feel okay. Then other days it all comes back, and I wonder how someone can disappear from your life while you’re still trying to make sense of everything.
Has anyone else had a breakup where the lies you discovered afterwards hurt even more than the breakup itself? How did you finally let go?

Trebalo mi je dosta vremena da shvatim da je ghosting bivše osobe zapravo odgovor sam po sebi.
Prije sam mislio da mi treba razgovor, objašnjenje, closure, neka zadnja poruka koja će sve imati smisla. Onda sam shvatio da je i šutnja poruka. Ako netko tko te navodno volio ne može skupiti hrabrosti za iskren razgovor, možda ti upravo pokazuje zašto ta osoba nije mogla biti ono što si mislio da jest. Danas na to gledam drugačije. Nije me ghostala osoba kakvu sam imao u glavi. Ghostala me osoba kakva stvarno jest. I iskreno, to je informacija koju sam trebao znati. Ponekad najveći closure nije odgovor koji dobiješ, nego ponašanje koje vidiš.

Je li bio tko u zadnje vrijeme u Andiamu u Villachu, kakve su cijene?

Pozdrav Redditovci!

Ima li vas koji ste se preselili u Zagreb i kako je to utjecalo na vaš život? Jeste li ikad zažalili odlazak iz rodnog mjesta?
Razmisljam o selidbi vec neko vrijeme, inace sam iz Rijeke i u srednjim 20-im sam, ali nekako sam osjecaja da sam ju ‘prerasao’ i da bi iduci logican korak bio Zagreb.
Razmisljao sam cak i o odlasku u inozemstvo ali neka to bude tema za neki drugi post.
Molim Vas da mi napisete sve, okvirne plaće u energetskom sektoru, koliko je teško pronać uopće posao, cijene najmova, najbolji kvartovi za život, a onda i oni najgori…
Unaprijed hvala svima na odgovorima!

Pozdrav, imam 26 godina i zavrsen diplomski studij i radim vec 3 godine u struci. Odlicno zaradujem, ali nisam se pronasao u svemu tome i generalno sam nezadovoljan s poslom. Razmisljam o upisu drugog fakulteta i promjeni karijere u potpuno drugom smjeru, konkretno planiram upisati Elektrotehniku pa me zanima koliko se tesko zaposliti u struci i kolika primanja mogu ocekivati?