u/Human-Stuff1308

So me F19 & my Boyfriend M21 are about to complete 3 years of our relationship next month.
I’ve always told him that if i’m not your type then you can be someone who actually is & it’ll save both of us a lot of mental & emotional distress (CONTEXT: I’ve always had issues with weight & etc i’m not too fat js a little chubby so whenever i try to eat something he just gets like “kuch healthy kha ke” “protein??” “Ghar ka khana kha kha kya haal kar liya hai apna” so in this context i used to say to him if you have certain type you should date them)
He says he loves me very much & i love him even more. I’m someone who has seen women suffer so much before & after pregnancy & even during child birth, so whenever my boyfriend says we’ll have a baby etc i just say that no i don’t wanna have a baby, i’ll never be someone jeopardising my physical, mental & emotional well being + my career because of child birth & they are horrible things happen to a female’s body during pregnancy & child birth.
So whenever i tell me boyfriend about my opinion on this he goes like

1. You don’t have motherly instincts
2. You are not feminine enough
3. You’ve ruined my mood completely i don’t wanna talk to you
4. Go to therapy
   What shall i do?? Should i continue to date him or what should i do?? Breakup???

Me F19 and my boyfriend M21 are about to complete 3 years together next month. I love him a lot and he says he loves me too.

For context, I’ve always had some insecurities around my weight. I’m slightly chubby and whenever I eat certain things he’ll make comments like “kuch healthy kha ke,” “protein??” or “ghar ka khana kha kha kya haal kar liya hai apna.” Because of this, I’ve told him multiple times that if I’m not his type physically then he should be with someone who is, since it would save both of us emotional stress in the long run. He always says I am his type and that he loves me.

Another thing is that I personally do not want children. I’ve seen women suffer physically, mentally and emotionally before, during and after pregnancy, and I genuinely don’t see myself wanting to go through childbirth or putting my career and wellbeing through that.

Whenever I share this opinion with him, his responses are usually:

1. “You don’t have motherly instincts.”
2. “You are not feminine enough.”
3. “You ruined my mood, I don’t want to talk.”
4. “Go to therapy.”

How would you view this situation?