u/Humble-Basis1483

I am 22F, and around two years back, I was molested by my mom's cousin. When I shared it with my mother, she refused to believe me. I don't have father or any sibling. My mom's sister, unmarried, lives with us along with my mom's mother. They both sided with my mother, and I was cornered, and all three of them never believed me.

After that incident, all of them behaved as if nothing has happened and talk very normally, even to him, laughing and everything. They mention his name while talking at times and it takes me back to the day when that incident happened and how traumatized I was. And even though I told mom once that what you are doing is really hurting me, she apologized, yet it did not improve her behavior. All this has left a very deep wound.

I'm currently studying for CA. I can't focus on my studies. Somewhere I feel like taking revenge, but I don't know how to. I just want to slap him once. After I saw how my own family reacted, I can't trust anybody with this information. I don't know what to do.

I also want to be financially independent asap so that I can move out of this house. What should I do? How do I focus on my career and studies leaving behind and ignoring whatever is happening in my house?

Around 2 years back, I had gone to my mother's uncle's house. She has three uncles and they live next to each other in separate bunglows. Each one has two sons.

I used to visit only one of the uncles. One day, the other uncle's son that I was not visiting, called me to his house and I thought he had some work so I went there and after entering his house just within 20 seconds he touched my breasts. I was so shocked. I didn't know how to react.

This was not the first time that he had done this. Previously, when he had done the same thing, I thought it was a mistakes so had let it go but how can somebody touch your breast within 20 seconds and that too when you were standing afar?

I realised that there was no one in the house so I tried to escape that house as soon as I could. I called up my mother after going to the other uncle's house. She refused to believe me and said you are mistaken and hallucinating. I tried to explain that this was not the first time. But she didn't believe. I promised myself that I would never bring up this topic again to her.

After about a year, there was a wedding in our house and he was also present and I saw that my mother was very happily talking to him, clicking pics and that left me heart broken. I did not know what to say.

Few months later I, mom and maasi were just talking and my mother's sister said that at least we have never seen anybody sexually harassing us in our family and it just made me very upset. I went to my room. Soon my mom entered and started nagging me. I told her that I wasn't in a good mood and to stop but she kept doing it. I just could not control and started crying and, mind you, I never cry in front of her so she was very worried and asked me what was the reason. I told her that how could you forget and how could you not believe me. She apologized and said that she believes me and she was wrong. She asked for my forgiveness. I did.

I feel extremely guilty for not standing up for myself. It boils my blood. I was never this kind of person, before when similar incident had occurred wherein a stranger touched my shoulder because he was drunk, I took a stand for myself and I was even ready to call the police but when it came to my family member, I did not know how to react. Also, I feel my mother doesn't really trust me, she is just saying that for the sake of it.

I, so, want to make him pay for it but don't know how to. Is there any way I can do it without going legal way? And most importantly, how do I forget about this incident? It becomes very difficult me to study.

My bf is B.A graduate by qualifications and is currently working in a private bank in Goa.

He is not keen into studying and hence does not want to answer any competitive exam.

He wants to start a business but does not have any idea at the moment as well as since we are middle class, we don't have that much capital.

Help me suggest him something as he has a lot of pressure from his family to settle down.

My bf is B.A graduate by qualifications and is currently working in a private bank in Goa.

He is not keen into studying and hence does not want to answer any competitive exam.

He wants to start a business but does not have any idea at the moment as well as since we are middle class, we don't have that much capital.

Help me suggest him something as he has a lot of pressure from his family to settle down.

I have been with this guy for almost 4 years now. We only talk once at night on call.

From the beginning of this year, he has changed a lot. Even talking once seems a burden to him. We constantly have fights. Even if I block him, he will call me through some other app. He doesn't let me eat, study or sleep in peace especially since last 6 months. He doesn't let me leave either.

Day before yesterday I literally begged him to leave me due to an argument but he promised me to change himself. Yesterday he himself called me but I was busy so I asked him if I could call in few mins. He agreed. When I called, he seemed pissed about something which after talking I realised was because he did not have dinner. I told him to go and have it but he said he wanted to eat pizza of Domino's and since it was raining heavily, he did not want to go. I asked him if I should swiggy it. He denied.

He later started verbally abusing me and using cuss words that because of me, he couldn't have dinner. He even asked me to die. I argued that he was the one who had called me and not the other way around but he kept blaming me and blocked me and went to sleep peacefully.

I called him from my other number and asked what does he want to do of this relationship. He said he doesn't want to breakup and again started abusing. I was so pissed.

I called up his father. I told him whatever has happened. He had also cheated on me once and this was his second chance. I even mentioned about this to his father. He said he will have a word with him. He is petrified of his father.

I did not want to involve his family in this but I had to and now I feel guilty. I shouldn't have called his father. Maybe he will manipulate his parents and put the blame entirely on me by deleting call history and showing only the number of times I have called him. I don't know what to do. I come from a small town where everyone knows everyone so I am scared that his might spread and might tarnish my family's image even though its not my fault. Also I genuinely loved him and miss him. Please help me move on.

I have been with this guy for almost 4 years now. We only talk once at night on call.

From the beginning of this year, he has changed a lot. Even talking once seems a burden to him. We constantly have fights. Even if I block him, he will call me through some other app. He doesn't let me eat, study or sleep in peace especially since last 6 months. He doesn't let me leave either.

Day before yesterday I literally begged him to leave me due to an argument but he promised me to change himself. Yesterday he himself called me but I was busy so I asked him if I could call in few mins. He agreed. When I called, he seemed pissed about something which after talking I realised was because he did not have dinner. I told him to go and have it but he said he wanted to eat pizza of Domino's and since it was raining heavily, he did not want to go. I asked him if I should swiggy it. He denied.

He later started verbally abusing me and using cuss words that because of me, he couldn't have dinner. He even asked me to die. I argued that he was the one who had called me and not the other way around but he kept blaming me and blocked me and went to sleep peacefully.

I called him from my other number and asked what does he want to do of this relationship. He said he doesn't want to breakup and again started abusing. I was so pissed.

I called up his father. I told him whatever has happened. He had also cheated on me once and this was his second chance. I even mentioned about this to his father. He said he will have a word with him. He is petrified of his father.

I did not want to involve his family in this but I had to and now I feel guilty. Maybe he will manipulate his parents and put the blame entirely on me by deleting call history and showing only the number of times I have called him. I don't know what to do. I come from a small town where everyone knows everyone so I am scared that his might spread and might tarnish my family's image even though its not my fault. Also I genuinely loved him and miss him. Please help me move on.

I am planning to attempt in Sept for G2 of inter and currently watching the lectures. I have finished with half of the lectures of audit and 3/4th of SM. I am yet to start Costing and FM. Two weeks back, due to an emergency in the family, I wasn't able to watch the lectures and it has broken my flow. I can't focus on any lecture now. I am petrified because I haven't even started with two practical subjects. It is giving me sleepless nights. Should I still think of answering in Sept or defer? Also, if you have gone through a similar situation, please help me in navigating. How do I complete the lectures? When should I start the revision? Please help me in making a schedule.