u/HungryJoey25

I have a problem. I’ve like this guy. Let’s call him Tommy for a little while now. However, due to our classes, I wasn’t able to really get to know him. So my crush was mostly resulting from his handsomeness (goodness he’s so hot!). Anyway, we were in class together in the spring semester (we’re in college by the way) and something happened before the semester started that may have clued him into me having a slight crush on him. Let’s just say it was involving social media and the like button on an older photo. Which was a complete mistake by the way!

Either way, I was kind of embarrassed until I realized that he was trying to talk to me and get me alone. I am fairly pretty, but I’m never the girl that gets attention from good looking guys so when he was giving me attention, I thought that it was negative. I know it sounds crazy, but I thought that his constant staring was because he was mean-mugging me. I thought that his failed attempts at trying to talk to me was so that he can start making fun of me. We don’t have the best history, kind of like a rivalry, but that was totally freshman year. It sounds so stupid now but in the moment all I could think about was how different we were and the behaviors that he was displayed were probably that of bullying or othering.

There were many moments of that and many moments of me, thoroughly embarrassing myself, but at a party near the end of the school year in may something happened that gave me a little too much hope. By this point I had realized that I had a huge crush on him that developed into Limerence and the best thing for me to do was have distance from him. I did NOT expect for him to be at the party!

I got a little inebriated, and I asked one of his friends (who I had thought was currently in some sort of relationship with him) if they were in fact dating, and she said no. Unfortunately, for me, she went back and told him, judging by how he was acting with me during the end of the party. He was very nervous and barely spoke, but he looked like he wanted to ask me something. He’s always had this shyness about., which throws me sometimes because he’s very very attractive. Since he was struggling abd I was nervous as hell, I just said bye to him and he said bye to me.

That was the last party of the year, but we also had one more final before the actual academic year ended, and it was genuinely filled with longing glances and weird performances that I could only describe as a mating dance, like what birds do. I would say that he likes me too… But my friends and sisters always say that “if a guy wanted to he probably would.”

This is all to say that that was in May and it is July and I haven’t stopped thinking about it. About him. It’s honestly very concerning for me because usually after a month I can moderately get rid of a crush or at least diminish it. It has not diminished and I’m not sure if it’s because I will be seeing him again next semester or if it’s because of something else. My obsession and Limerence with this guy isn’t necessarily ruining my life, but I don’t wanna keep thinking about him.

Send help!

TLDR/ I had a crush on a hot guy who is shy and it hasn’t gone away since May.

About a few months ago, I(19f) noticed that whenever my cycle would arrive, so would small red bumps on my breast. I’m kind of a hypochondriac so when I asked my mom, she told me not to worry about it and that it’s probably just my hormones changing. These rashes/bumps are itchy and only show up on my left breast. They don’t really get in the way, but they do stress me out. Also, sometimes it is coupled with a pain inside my breast, but sometimes my breasts are tender during my period and it almost always happens during my period period. They also usually go away as well, but resurface when my cycle comes around again.

Also to give context, I’m a black woman and it’s been hard to find good representation and images of what I could possibly have. Right now I am thinking mastitis or inflammatory breast cancer. I know I shouldn’t stress myself out too much but in my family I always get check ups and appointments because it’s very hard to calm me down when I believe that there’s something wrong with me.

I just came on here to ask any other black or brown women if they’ve had any of these symptoms and what those symptoms turned out to be before I spend a band trying to figure it out.