u/ICanBeYourPerson

Does anyone know how a narcissist can start actually caring about other people? I have a friend who is following the advice he’s getting from books and therapists like volunteering his time with people who are less fortunate, practicing empathetic behaviors like active listening and asking people how they feel, and listening to others rather than talking about himself, etc. All this has taught him is how to get better at \*pretending\* to care. It’s not making him \*actually\* care. He’s just gotten better at faking it. Anyone know if there’s a way for someone to make themselves actually care rather than just learning how to pretend to care? He swears he wants to care. He just doesn’t care.

Does anyone know how a narcissist can start actually caring about other people? I have a friend who is following the advice he’s getting from books and therapists like volunteering his time with people who are less fortunate, practicing empathetic behaviors like active listening and asking people how they feel, and listening to others rather than talking about himself, etc. All this has taught him is how to get better at \*pretending\* to care. It’s not making him \*actually\* care. He’s just gotten better at faking it. Anyone know if there’s a way for someone to make themselves actually care rather than just learning how to pretend to care? He swears he wants to care. He just doesn’t care.

Does it ever fall short or fail to meet the needs of the person participating in it?