u/Icy-Mix9554

We very recently found out we're expecting again (yay!), baby should be due in December if all goes well this time. I was public schooled, wife was homeschooled. I kind of want to homeschool our children but she is against it. We've discussed this in the past and agreed on probably Catholic schooling but its so expensive and I'm not sure we can afford that (maybe in a few years, I'm probably thinking too far ahead) so we've been discussing other options. My spouse had such a terrible experience with homeschool she won't even consider it (understandably so, her experiences were horrific and I get it). She genuinely thinks it will screw up our child mentally and they won't have friends like she didn't have friends but i think we can do better than her parents and get them around people and stuff but she keeps saying she isn't fit to be a teacher, she thinks they'll be isolated, etc. I also didn't have the best public school experience so I don't exactly want that for our kids either. Especially with all the crazy stuff the schools teach and honestly at this point I'm not sure catholic schools are any better. Catholic parents, what did you end up doing and how are your kids doing in it? If your kids are older how did your kids turn out from it? God bless!

Wife admitted she has BED. Its pretty bad. She says about 5000-7000 cals most days. What is this? What health problems did it cause? How can i help her stop? Has anyone recovered? If anyone is comfortable talking about it, what are some things your loved ones did for you that made you feel better? I wanna be supportive. I need to help her. I am extremely worried about this. I need to know as much info as possible. I cannot lose her.

Warning: mentions of anorexia, binge eating disorder, etc

My lovely wife has struggled eating disorders for a long time. She has never been fat, she is not fat now. She is a beautiful woman. When she was 14, she what was basically (at least i think, I'm not sure tbh, I've never had an ED) anxorexia. Then she got BED. This stopped when she was 15-ish, sometime early in our relationship. We got married young and we went through a lot of very bad things but her eating habits were pretty healthy. Almost a year ago we went through something that absolutely broke her and she basically stopped eating hardly at all, barely enough to survive. I don't think it was an ED thing, i think it was just depression. She lost a ton of weight (she was thin, in December she maybe weighed 100 ibs tops and she's average height)​ and honestly i admit i was not the partner she needed and i could've been better but i didn't know how to deal with it either. Things have gotten better and in February she started to eat meals again. I was happy she was getting healthy. Over the last few months she has put on a lot of weight. Like a noticeable amount. She probably weighs more now than she ever did pregnant. For obvious reasons, i didn't point this out but honestly i think she looks good. She's naturally curvy. She's gorgeous. I'm happy she is happy and eating. She deserves that. However, i was a bit concerned because the weight gain was so rapid, but i didn't think much of it. I thought she was just eating normal meals. Now the other day, we went out & i was getting really hungry so i asked her if she wanted to stop by the Taco Bell. She started crying. I was confused and i asked why and she admitted that in the last few months she has fallen back into binge eating and apparently has been consuming 4000-7000 calories at least 4 times every week since valentine's day while I'm at work. I am still shocked but it makes sense. How else could she gained this weight? Food goes missing too. I just never thought of this. I have no idea what to do or how to support her. How can I actually be helpful and not useless? Also can this have long term health issues?