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How are your relationships with ISFP, INFP, ENFJ and ENTJ?

I ask because I am surrounded by them and I learn a lot from them but they also challenge me a lot.

I have also noticed getting quite a bit of heat from only one of the groups.

If you have them (the four) in your life, how do you have healthy relationships with them, challenges perhaps you experienced and navigated through them, etc. Thanks!

Hi fellow INFJs!

I really need your advice on this.
I may have also previously posted and took a lot of the advices you all gave me.

I’ve been seeing this person since three months and I’ve run into this issue multiple times. Despite me expressing that he doesn’t really show any curiosity or ask me about my interests, it hasn’t really helped.

I get extremely agitated and super fast annoyed when it’s my turn to talk and he doesn’t let me finish my thoughts. In the middle of the conversation, he starts interjecting and after several times, I completely shut down. On top of all, I don’t find our conversations interesting because it’s talking about a very niche topic in details.

This week, it happened again and again and I’m just over it. I don’t feel like talking to this person although I like them and they’re super sweet. Talking to them feels very painful and I think I’ve started to grow a lot of resentment. It’s so dry and not personal and just so boring. They also don’t get my sense of humor (I’m not saying I’m the funniest but not being on the same wavelength is mad awkward).

I do like this person but whenever I speak to him, I am so annoyed and faced with the reality of how our dynamic is. I just don’t understand it at all. I feel so unexplored and so boring with him.

How should I go about this? I do like him and have feelings for him and he’s also going through a tough time. Part of me really doesn’t want to put any effort and I feel the doorslam in my bones. I am fighting it everyday. The other part is also hopeful that if we work on things, it’ll be better.

I don’t know.

Hi fellow INFJs!

How important are fulfilling conversations for you guys?

I am currently seeing someone and have realized that I really don’t like how he responds to what I say. For example, if I introduce or talk about a social or political case, his responses are along the lines of “I am sorry for xyz” or “Oh that’s sad, hope you feel better”. Very robotic and not emotionally fulfilling. I know ENTPs are said to be our ideal match but I constantly cannot connect with him. Everything feels very surface level. He does care about me but doesn’t show any interest or doesn’t ask questions about me apart from how I am doing and what I’m doing during the day. Previously, he had dated someone non N type for about three years and I feel he may be mistyped.

I am honestly very confused and don’t understand this at all. I don’t know if I am overthinking or being too harsh but I genuinely cannot continue a conversation with him. He either talks at me or talks about things that I have no context on for long periods of time. It feels like random info dumps. If I ask why does he like a particular thing, he doesn’t or cannot say much. It feels like I just get random knowledge stuff which is fine but I don’t actually get to know him as a person. It feels boring, non romantic and quite robotic.

It lacks the emotional connection I seek.
Please feel free to ask me questions. I’d also like to see if anything is wrong with me.

Was wondering why so many ENTPs (from my observation) have dated or have chosen ISFPs as their SO.

From my friend group, family and community, I have seen ENTPs (especially male) going for ISFPs. There are very very few exceptions where the relationship has transitioned to a happy marriage. Most of them fell apart due to very similar reasons.
It doesn’t make sense. It seems like the function stack of both types don’t really complement each other and this dynamic ends up having quite predicted reasons for fallouts.

I want to hear your personal opinion/experience as to why it didn’t work/things you regret/things you appreciated/why it does work/what do you do to make it work?

Dear INFJs,

Do you have a fear of flying?
If yes, how do you navigate around this?

Additional question: how do you develop your Se?
I have put a good amount of my time developing my Ti and having a healthy Fe. Sometimes my Ni goes into overdrive mode and causes me so much anxiety.

For context: I’m an engineer, 28F, Asian. A lot of the anxiety definitely comes from cultural and family things but I’ve also noticed that if I spend too many days inside the house, I start to build the cocoon and want to stay there forever because the outside world becomes too unpredictable for me.

Thank you < 3

Hi! I (28, F, INFJ) am currently seeing an entp (28,M).
It has been a month.

I wanted to ask you guys for advice on how to be a better partner/ better accommodate the person I’m seeing. : )

Some context:

1. He recently came out of a relationship (month before we started socializing [not dating]. He was also supposed to marry his ex but for xyz reason, they both decided not to go through with it) He has been very honest about it. When I have gently asked him whether he would rather take some time to process or heal, he expressed that he likes me quite a lot and he would prefer that we continue seeing each other.
   Concern: I am a bit unsure about this. I’m unsure whether he’ll change his mind about me because down the road he realizes he’s not over her. (valid but uh, scary for me) I must mention he did fly out to see me and spent a good chunk of time, energy and money for doing so. He is doing it again when I’m visiting a closeby state for work. (He’s so cute, I like him and I’m super grateful for this hehe 😫🥰. Okay, back to the serious topic.)

2. He is moving quite a lot (apartment hunting, leases, complicated roommates, leaking pipes and living among boxes) and is very stressed with his super long hours at a role he absolutely does not like. Things have not been the greatest for him this year. In the beginning, he was very excited and warm, but currently, he seems very withdrawn, somewhat absent. We also have not been able to connect deeply emotionally after his first trip. Things have been very hectic for this beautiful boy.
   Concern: we met and we spent time together in person. At that time, I was very stressed with my work. We got into this disagreement after his visit and we resolved it. I wanted to know whether when ENTPs say they have moved past a situation, how often is that true? Due to his (how do I say this) flat(?) behavior, I keep thinking whether I have done or said anything wrong that he may be withholding inside. I have also read that ENTPs get bored after a while so that’s something I’m also concerned about.

3. I don’t want to stress this person out more but something in my radar feels amiss. I had the experience of being with people who would for months or weeks hold things inside and then I’d have to find out in the worst possible ways. How true or prevalent is that behavior for ENTPs? How do ENTPs act when they are stressed? He told me he likes solutions more and not me validating his feelings but realistically, it’s not always possible to come up with a solution, sometimes, you just have to let the situation pass. Other times, because of the geographical distance, it’s not possible for me to do what I usually can do (physical affection but not included to only massages [ifkyk ; )], ordering or making food for them, lots of head scratches, taking care of chores, etc). He mentioned his first love language is acts of service. Hard to demonstrate over distance. We’re also seeing each other soon like in about two days. I think I’m just a bit concerned that he feels I’m not doing enough or am not helping him during these trying times.

Any input, feedback, insight, question or observation is highly encouraged and appreciated : )