Need advice on family living situation
Earlier this year my (55F) niece (21F) Jenny asked if she could move in with me and my daughter (18F). She had just aged out of foster care and didn’t have anywhere else to go. My daughter Emma was not happy about it. The cousins didn’t have much of a relationship before. Jenny experienced a fair amount of trauma from her terrible parents. I don’t know much about her foster placement. When she arrived, Jenny had odd habits, like staying awake for most of the night loudly playing video games with online friends. Jenny also has ADHD so she might do things like leave the front door unlocked or the oven on. Emma got increasingly frustrated first asking then telling Jenny to keep the loud talking down. Things came to a head several months later when Emma said something like I wish you didn’t live here anymore. Jenny lost it. They called each other names, then Jenny lunged at Emma and beat her. Emma called the police and filed for a temporary restraining order (TRO). They had some distance: Jenny stayed with some other family and Emma was out of town on a few pre planned trips. But soon they will be back in the same house. I don’t trust them together even though the TRO forbids them from coming within 4 yards of each other in the house and from communicating with each other in any way. I think Jenny crossed a line by getting physically violent and I would like her to leave. The problem is, Jenny has no job, is not in contact with her parents and functions at the level of a 13 or 14 YO. I have nowhere to take her but am looking for supportive transitional housing for former foster youth. The thing is, these lists are long and she may not get housing before she ages out of eligibility completely. I’m at my wit’s end and could use some advice.