would a therapist forget if their client was assaulted?
So, I'm genuinely worried my therapist forgot. I find it really hard to talk about, but I told her all the details, which is important because she'd be the only person other than myself and the perpatrator (my ex) who knows what happened. She's also the person who told me it was sexual assault, before that I didn't really "understand" what happened other than I knew I was scared and confused. She specidlfically told me she wouldn't bring it up herself but that doesn't mean she forgot. However, she can be forgetful, usually only over small things and I've been seeing her for some time so if I've not mentioned something in years I can't expect her to remember, we're both human at the end of the day. But she's said a few things that make me think that either she's forgotten or she's testing the water to see if I can bring it up... I can't tell which it is.
But the other thing is that she started talking about my ex enjoying bdsm and that he should get more into that scene, almost as though the problem my ex and I had was that he was into kink when I wasn't, like it was a mismatch in preference. It confused me, like previoysly she told me what I experienced was abuse but idk it almost felt like, if I was into this as a kink it'd be okay when it was very nonconsensual and my ex acknowledged that at the time and told me he preferred it that way.
When it comes to this topic and the way people speak about it, I can be incredibly sensitive, and I have misinterpreted things and needed to take a beat to think. So I don't know if she's trying to make an entirely different point to what I'm interpreting. (Yes I know I need to talk to her, I will when I understand my own thougjts a bit better) (NAT).