r/butchlesbians

I'm a femme, and I've wanted children for as long as I can remember. At the same time, I'm exclusively attracted to butches. Lately, I've found myself worrying that I might have to choose between being with the kind of woman I've always dreamed of and having children.

If it came down to it, the woman I spend my life with would always be more important to me than having kids. But that doesn't make it any easier to let go of the dream of having a family.

I'd really love to hear from butches about how you feel about having children. Is it something you've always wanted, something you've never wanted, or something you're still figuring out? I'd be so grateful for any thoughts or experiences you're willing to share.

If you’ve got a belly, where are you wearing your strap? If it’s against my clit, my dick is pointing downwards and my harness emphasizes my belly. If I wear it over my lower belly, it’s going out straight but it feels weird to fuck from my stomach. I want to fuck from my clit so it feels good and have it be normal but I don’t know what to do.

EDIT: When I have it over my clit, my dick points downward. This feels weird to me. Is this just what we’re doing? Not trying to argue about whether I should love my belly or not.

Guys I’m a 34H. An H! I want to chop them off so badly. (So sweaty!) but until then I need help finding bras.

In the past, I’ve bought tomboyx bras, but I don’t like their fabric selection. And I hate that you pull them on over your head, the elastic stretches out too fast and you can’t adjust them. Last year I bought a few bravada bras it was like having tiny cherubs lift my breasts all day. So comfortable I could cry! But then the company went out of business. I have an enell bra, but it’s kinda like the Fort Knox of sports bras, it’s a little too much for everyday.

Is anyone else out there a member of the BBB club? What bras do you swear by?

Going out of town with my girl later today for a short getaway. For context we’re both moving across opposite sides of the country for school, and she’ll be away for most of the summer so this’ll likely be one of the last times I see her for a long time. I’m trying to think of ways to make our trip as special as possible.

We’re planning on going to the Grand Canyon (+ the deer farm nearby). I’m taking her out to her favorite burger joint in town. We’ll probably hit this lookout point over Sedona. Any az butches know cool spots around? Otherwise, just small ideas to make our last trip memorable.

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I want to start by saying I am not a butch, but I am a butch-loving lesbian to heart! But I am starting to worry because I feel like i don’t fit the type that butches typically have.

I’ve only ever seen butches either love other butches or fem/mme’s and I don’t think i’m neither. Def not a butch but idk if i’m pretty enough to be labeled as a fem though i like to dress up super cute (or try to). Are there butches out there with specific types like besides fems or other butches? I just want to know if I’ll ever have a chance 🥲 I hope this isn’t insensitive, I am also just curious too!

I’m a transmasc butch and i genuinely feel so alone. I feel like there isn’t anyone else like me around where i live. I feel like im going to be alone forever. does this feeling ever get better?

Is it weird and am i a psycho that i feel i should be slapped and punched by him when i a stone or a butch?

Edit: just a satire post or is it? 🤣

Hello hello,

That was a close one! I'm up in New England visiting family and all you lovely people crossed my mind, realized I never put a BFR out!

How is everyone in the butchverse doing?

Went in a public pool with my shirt off for the first time since top today. Cherry on top, no one batted an eye. Wishing all of my top surgeried butches a topless summer!

Today, my (27) therapist asked my thoughts about me “getting back on the dating scene,” and man, I feel kind of discouraged.

As a butch4butch living in a fairly conservative part of Canada with a seemingly small Queer community, it sucked to admit that yeah, I think about getting back on the dating scene. Especially when I’m in the midst of a quiet night alone at home, like I am tonight. Dating apps exacerbate disposability culture and don’t feel good to me, and regardless, I can’t seem to find the local butches hiding away.

I’m reminding myself that things can change in an instant, my person is out there somewhere, and the timing probably isn’t right yet. I’m also sending positive thoughts to my other butch4butches who might be feeling the same way. I see and hear and feel you, my friends.

So my wife and I are fairly new to our neighborhood. She is always the social butterfly. Me not so much. Our next door neighbors are also a lesbian couple. My wife has met them both already. Each time she does i am either not home or preoccupied with our 2 year old. Shes super excited for us all to get along. I just don't know how to be a normal freaking person and not weird when meeting potential friends. Especially other lesbians. I would love to have more gay friends. Im just used to meeting people through work or other methods of forced interactions. I think im just over thinking this. Any advice for a socially awkward nerd?

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For girls who don't currently have friends but do have a partner: how did you meet? I’m not looking for a specific answer; I’m simply interested in reading about your experiences and learning about the different paths that led to your relationships.