I feel like a lot of discussions center on what you can do for someone else. Obviously, this is major and inherent to being butch, absolutely in no way downgrading that, it's very important to my identity too. Whilst I am a wimp and can't do much that's practical making people feel seen and safe is really important to me - I'm your guy to catch spiders, deep clean your bathroom, meet you at the airport to help with luggage, someone to vent to, a shoulder to cry on, talk through a problem (just dont ask me to drive or build furniture). Which I think is still butch even if I can't change a tire.

All that to say, I don't want this post to come across like I'm diminishing this important part of what it means to be butch. I guess I'm interested in hearing what beign butch means to y'all, outside of that? Butch euphoria, if you will.

Maybe some of the reason behind this question is that behind my exterior I'm (26) kind of a traumatised wimp who's desperate for approval & struggling with severe internalised homophobia (which stays internalised, I don't project that onto others or anything) which is really where my butch insecurity kicks in. I also feel kind of too old to be this insecure so there's that. Anyway... Just interested in people's thoughts <3

I can’t decide myself. I love a butch with vascular hands, big arms, curves, a waist I can grab….

I was out and about in Italy yesterday, and noticed 2 butches at this getogether thing, and noticed both had fully shaved legs (they were wearing shorts), and I was kind of surprised. I didn't prod or say anything, but is this something that is more common in Europe than in North America? The first 2 butches I happened to stumble upon here (they weren't together and didn't know one another from what I could tell) had shaved legs! Kind of curious

hello lovely butches! i’m very new to binding, and i’ve been thinking about buying a binder but i’ve seen people use chest tape also. i have a HUGE chest, like 38DD/E, so i’m not quite certain tape will work out. any advice is appreciated! thank you :DDD

Okay, I've been tossing around with this for a while now. My girlfriend has always referred to me as masc, likely because it's become a popular term in recent years. Butch definitely seems more rooted in history and culture, while masc seems to be about clothing and appearance only.

However, the thing that keeps sticking out to me about being butch is the whole chivalry thing. Is this a necessary prerequisite? I have short hair, I never wear dresses or skirts, if I wear makeup it's pretty minimal and androgynous. However, I often feel like my girlfriend takes the role of protector in our relationship despite being more femme. Granted, we both love going out of our way for each other, but she's very strong in that role. Maybe this is just relationship-specific, and I'd be more of a protector in other contexts.

Does that make me any less of a butch? How do I know that I'm a butch? I really feel aligned with this identity, especially in terms of how I conceptualize my gender, but I get stuck at the behaviors aspect. Honestly, I'm a total diva underneath. I feel pretty aligned to twink, just in lesbian form.

Thoughts? I'm just so curious!

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I’ve honestly never put much effort into my appearance and I’m trying to change that. I’ve spent most of my life in joggers and hoodies and I feel slobby wearing that constantly.

I’m around 5ft4 and I’m quite curvy so I have I hard time finding things that fit me the way I want. T shirts sit awkwardly on me and hugs every curve I have. They’re usually too long but not baggy because they hug my hips and I hate it. Almost everything on my bottom half (jeans, trousers, etc) just never look right too. Any advice is appreciated

Its mainly because im 17. Im a he/him butch lesbian, is what id like to tell people. I get embarrassed using the term butch because im so young; am I just makinga mockery of the butch identity? My girlfriend was the one that helped me realise that I am butch, but while she has helped me a lot, i still get scared other people will look at me and laugh if I mention it. I carry myself with a lot of confidence, so when I deflate like that it also feels like its exposing me. I just want to be more comfortable with being butch because that is me but being so young makes me think it cant be me.

I yearn for a femme.
Every time I try to get back into dating, I feel like my hopes are dashed. Not only do I yearn for a femme, but I am also on the ace spectrum and I have trauma with intimacy. I feel like I can’t find a femme in the first place let alone an ace spec femme. And I don’t want to disappoint a femme that is not ace spec.
I want to spoil and adore someone, though. It just feels so unlikely to happen for me

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The A-town flame​

From the heart of the A, across the state line,

I'm locking it down for you, making you mine.

Like the A-town flame my roots run deep and true.

A doberman on watch, keeping a eye on you.

No matter how many miles apart.

The city heat is alive in my heart.

I'm standing my ground, heavy on the defense.

Protecting this love, because u make sense.

So breath easy my darling, let ur worries undo.

Because mamicita, im looking out for u

I’m a 19 yr old butch, I’ve only recently came to terms with my label and so I’m trying to feel more comfortable with how I present, but I’m unsure how to go about it.

I’m pretty shy, and not the tallest either. I’ve been on testosterone to make my dysphoria better and it’s definitely helped, but there’s things that make me stand out which is my height, my curves, and how feminine my facial features are. The biggest insecure I have is my eye shape, my eyes are pretty round and big so it makes me look way more feminine, I’m just unsure on how to go about it.

If anyone has any tips on how to carry myself to be more masculine I’d really appreciate it, as well as maybe a way to mask my feminine features a bit more.

So long story short I was pulled aside at work for my style of clothing, basically i was told that I should wear more feminine clothes and makeup because the company has a certain image to uphold.....I dress clean, simple and more on the masculine side, but I don't do anything to draw attention to myself at all. Sadly I'm naturally androgynous so I suppose that's what's raising red flags. I'm so confused 🙂‍↕️ I'm definitely not changing the way I present myself, and I'm definitely not wearing makeup to work. For reference this is a office style workplace

Hi I am 20 years old and I'm just a baby butch...lately I've been having some doubts

I recently had my first sexual experience and well, it's already happened again, it was good, I enjoyed it But on none of the occasions I got completely naked; my partner doesn't seem to mind that part.

On both occasions, sex was about me focusing on her pleasure. Although she politely asked if I needed anything else, I was genuinely fine as I was, but I couldn't take my pants off the whole time and that idea made me a little uncomfortable.And during the act I felt a little...frustrated for not having a dick

What I mean is, "Is this normal?" "Has this happened to you?"

I know that as a butch you can experience dysphoria, but I still don't fully understand what it's like. Is this dysphoria? Or how do you experience dysphoria?

I think it would help me to know your experiences with things like this.

I apologize if something isn't completely clear, as I used a translator to write this.

That's all, thank you for your attention 😺