u/nearlynuanced

My fiancé and I (butch4butch) got engaged all the way back last December, but we're both really indecisive about rings so we still have our placeholder ones.

I had originally wanted a band to serve as both a wedding and engagement ring, but have started leaning towards a ring with a stone for an engagement ring. I've been secure in my butch identity for a hot sec and wear rings sometimes, but not typically ones with sparkly stones.

Have any of y'all not tolerated "sparkly" jewelry on yourself and ended up being able to like and embrace it as engagement or wedding jewelry? I'm looking at sleeker, more artistic/dynamic designs that aren't crazy eye catching, but am almost...self conscious? potentially? about wanting a ring with some fire to the stone and am worried about it looking out of place on me as I'm pretty masculine. I just like pretty rocks man, I don't know.

This is the current one I'm looking at for ref, I'd love opinions on the style of that one as well :-)

https://filigreejewelers.com/products/76-oval-rose-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-platinum?variant=52153607455008

My fiancé and I are helping to choose rings for one another— however, we're both prone to indecision paralysis. This has resulted in a lot of us browsing and trying on rings, but we ultimately still have the "placeholder" $20ish Etsy rings we started with and have been engaged for the better part of a year now.

We're finally getting somewhere with them, but I have a few too many options going on still.

I added some rings I'm looking at to see what y'all think, but am very open to suggestions as well.

Characteristics I'm looking for in a ring:

-Nautral stone with no heat treatment
-Under a carat, ideally something like 0.5-0.75kt
-Platinum or white gold
-Very light (almost colorless) blue sapphire, white sapphire, or natural colorless to blue-ish or gray-ish tint (or maybe salt and pepper with the right design) diamond
-Favorite shapes and cuts are freeform/organic, trillion, antique cushion, pear, and rose cut
-Some fire in stone but not "too" large or shiny— think unique and pretty without being overly eye-catching
-Low-profile stone/setting that won't catch on things
-Dynamic or artsy designs without too much clutter
-2mm to 3mm ish band
-I'm a butch lesbian and tend to present pretty androgynously, so nothing that would look wildly out of place on my finger; this one is a little harder to define as I don't mind pieces with some sparkle and do want a ring with a stone for an engagement ring, but halo and pave bands and big stones are examples of things I really don't like on myself
-Tend to like taper/ bands that aren't all one width and split shank but not married to either (ha)
-Would prefer to support a business that is either LGBTQ-owned or openly expresses support/is known to work with the community if possible + one that ethically sources their stones

Thank you so much for any insight!!