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I’m on T. I got top surgery. I dress super masc. I’m queer. I get gendered fairly correctly most of the time (he/they). There’s a local lesbian/queer women’s social coming up. I really want to go because I’ve given up on dating apps and have a hard time meeting people because I work from home. Would I be “invading” a woman’s space if I go? I won’t hit on anyone, I just want to get out of the house and meet new people, preferably queer. I’m so nervous, seriously considering not going.

Item 76 of the meeting will address allowing for the exception of mineral extraction from wilderness areas by non-US companies, one of which is the Music Valley area. Music Valley is near 29 Palms. Before JTNP was a national park, it was the JT Monument and Music Valley was part of it.

More background:

In March 2026 Australian mining company Dateline Resources announced an acquisition of patented mining claims from Fermi Minerals, and new mining claims in the Music Valley/Gold Park area adjacent to Joshua Tree National Park. In total, there are 1,140 acres of patented claims, and over 20,000 acres of new mining claims. According to Dateline Resources press releases these claims continue their efforts to expand to the heavy rare earth elements (HREE) industry. Dateline Resources has a history of aggressive and irresponsible mining. They currently operate the Colosseum Mine, a mine solely within the Mojave National Preserve, where the Department of Interior has given them carte blanche to expand, explore, and develop further mining operations onto National Park Service land. While the company is Australian, they appeal to domestic investors and are engaged in influencing local and national politicians on their mining interests. Music Valley is primarily public land, managed under the Bureau of Land Management. Adjacent to Music Valley is the Pinto Mountains Wilderness Area, Pinto Mountains ACEC, and Joshua Tree National Park. Access roads into Music Valley are through the City of Twentynine Palms via Gold Park Road (crosses through Joshua Tree National Park), or through Shelton Road across from the Wonder Valley community. These claims lie within Riverside and San Bernardino County, including some claims inside of the City of Twentynine Palms.
 
Music Valley Mine Talking Points:
-A mine next to a National Park, and the gateway community of Twentynine Palms is incompatible with the communities values, economic interests, and future.
-While mining is allowed on public lands, and occurs throughout San Bernardino County, this is not the place—next to a community and a National Park.
-Foreign mining interests have no place in a rural community that values sustainable tourism, military families, and small businesses.
-Share your concern on how this mine would impact your way of life, or business in this community.
-A large pit mine would be detrimental to the City of Twentynine Palms economic development master plan, a plan that encourages small business and tourism development
-Encourage City Councilmembers to bring this issue to an agendized item.
-Encourage City Coucilmembers to adopt a road access moratorium for the mining project through the City of Twentynine Palms.
-Encourage City Councilmembers to share their constituents concerns of this mine to San Bernardino County Supervisors, and other elected officials.

Here is the link, the Land Resources section refers to this topic. We can’t let corporations ruin our home, livelihoods, tourism, and natural resources.

Just some nonsexual physical contact would be the shit right about now

Looking for the Ennis to my Jack Nasty. Hi. I’m a hiker. A slow runner. I live in and love the high desert. I’m vegan, but you don’t have to be. I’m passionate about the environment, politics, video games, and movies. I love to read and write in my spare time. I’m 5’3, around 170 pounds, had top surgery and I’m on T. I’m butch and queer, but I’m also B4B. I love punk and ska music, but I’ll listen to anything with a beat. Live music is exceptional and if I could I’d be at every show within driving distance. I’m family oriented, chosen or otherwise, and I have a thriving group of friends. I hope you do too. Let’s talk music, movies, or books. Tell me about whatever it is you’re into, so I can get into it too. Please no aro/demi/ace/avoidant folks. I go to therapy and have worked on my codependency traits and fearful avoidant tendencies. Don’t need to be perfect, but willing to continue to grow as a person and as a couple. Hope to hear from you soon!!

I hike a lot, I also love to hash, and I’m very gay. Most people hate me and the rare few like to have me around. Idk if I pass as a guy but I’m butch and very proud and loud about it. Idk

I’ve been dating a long time. I’ve had many a first date. Even gone on to situationship. But why are there so many people who don’t want to be in relationships on dating apps? Like? There are actual hook up apps? Be honest about what you want? Why are you continually dating and hooking up with people who want to be in a relationship?

Hi, I’m a nonbinary butch. My gender is butch. I’m neither male nor female.

I want to change my gender marker to X but I am wondering if it would be safer and/or less complicated to continue receiving medical care to either just change my gender marker to M instead of X.

I have socially transitioned at work but can easily change my name and gender through HR. I am postponing finding another job until I get my paperwork in order.

Does anyone have any experience with this process or know of any pros or cons? TIA!

To no one in particular,
I hope I never fall for someone who is emotionally avoidant or demisexual ever again. I’m good to have around but not good enough to be with to these types of people. I am a great partner, a loving friend, someone you can depend on when you need me. But I also work on myself. I have great friends. Hobbies, interests. But I want to have someone in my life who complements my life and wants to be with me. I tried to be polyamorous because I know it is impossible to be everything to one person. I try to underplay my sexuality because security and safety are so important. But I lose myself every time waiting to be chosen. I hope I never meet another avoidant or demisexual person who doesn’t know what they want, because they will never want me. I will focus on my own healing, fully and completely, because I can never be loved by another person the way that I deserve.
Sincerely,
Me

I’m poor. I got my first full time “adult” job in my late 20s, been there almost five years, but the pay isn’t keeping up with everything, plus I made some bad financial decisions.
Everywhere I look, someone is warning that it is past time to flee the US.
The person I’m dating even plans on leaving and she likes me but doesn’t want to commit because she plans on leaving but is still willing to date me. It’s a whole thing.
I’m just in so much despair because I can’t even think that far ahead, I’m so behind on bills and utilities and loans and credit cards that it just doesn’t seem feasible to leave.
I have given up on dating. I have given up on leaving this shithole country. What am I even supposed to do??? Can’t change my name/gender marker, my passport is severely outdated, we’re one of the most hated countries to emigrate out of, what options are there????

I’ve alienated all my friends and family.

I’ve cut myself out socially.

I work a dead end job that doesn’t even pay my rent.

I drink until I black out. Which is most nights.

What even is the point.

If I could buy a gun I would have but I fucked that up when I got 5150’d at 28. I’m 33 now.

I am literally a waste of space.

No one can save me. I can’t save me. Transitioning didn’t save me. Getting a full time job didn’t save me. Going to college didn’t save me. I exist only out of opportunity and spite.

I’ve been out as nonbinary for 10+ years. I just sort of ~dealt~ with the dysphoria until about 2025 when I started T. It became so much worse when I came out to my family and friends. I really want to change my name and gender marker. I know that updating my passport is just not going to happen. Is it even worth it to change my docs in my state, California? Should I just wait? Does it even matter? What’s even the point?