u/Icy_Carob1362

I just want to preface this by saying that I love kids and I really do have the utmost empathy for parents who are struggling with parenthood in any way. I'm never a "well you chose this, so you can't complain" person, and i do what I can to support my parent friends.

THAT BEING SAID...

One thing i'm real sick of is this pathological need that some parents have to slip in some comment about how much easier people without kids have it, when that's not the topic of discussion. First of all, yeah I know. That's like the whole reason I don't have kids. Secondly, in certain situations it can feel very dismissive.

As an example, the other day I was having an absolutely horrible period. Felt like I had the flu. This is common for me. I called out of work, and then proceeded to sleep until almost 1 pm, despite having gone to bed at 10 the night before. In no world did I want to sleep all day, but I was just so completely fatigued I had no choice. When I was finally able to wake up, I was in so much pain I could barely move.

My parent friend texted that evening asking if I wanted to hang the next day. I responded that i'd need to play it by ear, as i was feeling so bad. I mentioned that I had slept til 1 that day. Her response was "omg that sounds fucking amazing."

Girl, what? I just told you i'm sick as hell and couldn't even force myself to be awake, let alone function. Nothing about this is amazing. And why do you have to seize every opportunity to remind me that you have it harder than me? In literally any other scenario that would be considered grossly inappropriate.

I understand that parents don't get to rest when they're sick. That sucks, and yeah, i'm grateful that's not something I have to contend with. But really? "I feel like complete shit and haven't been able to get out of bed." "Omg that sounds amazing." Do you hear yourself?

Sometimes I feel like parents are so consumed by their caregiver role that they truly lose sight of anyone else's perspective, and forget that there are other hard things in life. If debilitating pain "sounds amazing" in comparison to day-to-day life with your child, idk it sounds like you need to do some soul searching about why you feel that way.

I've posted ISO this song before with no luck but I figured i'd try again. I can't remember a single word of this song, but the video is very memorable.

It starts with a young woman in her very girly bedroom. Lots of pastels and I think stuffed animals. She is on her phone, seemingly posting and chatting with people online, taking selfies, etc. It's very upbeat and happy, but then her phone dies and everything gets dark, and all of these creepy, demonic looking people begin to emerge. She starts to panic, but then she finds her tablet, gets back online, and everything returns to bright and happy and cute. Then her tablet dies and everything gets scary again.

Does this ring a bell to anyone? I've been trying to find this video for years!!

Made my own personalized 75, and i'm curious to know what other people would put on theirs! Here's mine:

•Wake up by 7:30

•No scrolling (except on toilet) until awake for 2 hours

•Sun salutation - meditation - Tarot card pull

•Read at least 50 pages

•Eat 5 servings fruit/veg

•At least one hour of creativity