u/IdkbutIDOCARE

My 8 yr old daughter very likely has adhd, we have a dr appt with her pediatrician next week to discuss a possible diagnosis and treatment, etc. I’m new to neurodivergence in general and have a lot research to do. She specifically has troubles with emotional regulation, outbursts, transitions, friendships, and plenty of anxiety.

I’m specifically wondering what you wished you knew in the beginning: things that might help me best approach the dr visit and things to bring up or ask for - or things to not mention! Are there niche symptoms you wished you recognized? Or therapies you wish you knew about that weren’t offered at the start? Any other “insider” info or advice from a parent who’s gone through this before? (Similarly to giving birth, for example, I feel like half the time women aren’t given all the options, and might’ve liked to know the options.)

In my experience, even good drs don’t have all the info or know to ask the right questions, etc. Thanks in advance!

I am 41f, have 15 yrs in a specialized healthcare field, and have hated my job (and my life) and felt so trapped by being a single mom, having a high mortgage, burnout from work, etc. Idk if its an ADHD thing but I have this unyielding desire, almost a hyper-fixation, on how can I make a giant change. Like sell my house and be debt free and do an online masters in another country. Or rent my house out and live on a farm for room and board ( I am not a farming-country type! lol) Why am I not happy with the mundane security I have managed to obtain!? Why isnt the security enough to keep me feeling settled? Is this an ADHD thing?

*i was diagnosed only 3 months ago and still figuring if/how my meds are working, in case that is relevant.

This is not something I hear people talk about very much! But I have read hyper flexibility is a common occurrence with ADHD. As well as as a specific type of posture, with the knees locked, and the pelvis tilted, and the belly, leaning forward in the back suede towards the belly, which also causes the head clean forward.

Does anyone feel like they have or had this?

I had that posture as a child and went through some interesting and alternative body adjustments i.e. Rolfing. Painful for a 10-year-old!

I’m 41 and was just diagnosed with ADHD. I am finding so many things about my life I likely related to it! I have always been hyper flexible with posture issues and joint strength issues. Now, knowing my boxer issues might be from the ADHD, I’m wondering if a physical therapist could help me realign at this point. I recently lost some weight and can see my hip bones and my tailbone is painful when I sit down.

Just curious if anyone else has dealt with this or been successful at correcting anything later on in life?

My 8 yr old has just been diagnosed with adhd. Her emotional regulation is becoming non existent, and it used to be just at home but now I’m hearing it’s at school too.

My daughter has historically been pretty good at finding friends and having several. As they get older, the groups will form, and the core friendship circles will be so important for the pre-teen and teenage years. Over this last year she has not only complained about a lot of them, but I’m hearing a lot of kids just don’t want to play with her. She has hardly been invited to any playdates all year.

I don’t know how to help her. Seems like she will get mad at one friend for doing something and everyone takes that other friend’s side. (I’m guessing my daughter is being a bit explosive or intense and I don’t even blame these kids for not wanting to be around that!) Even my daughter’s closest friend has pulled away. I’m terrified she will be all alone, that she’ll not have a great group a friends, and she’ll struggle for the next 10 years that much more. Girls need girlfriends during these years. I was diagnosed with ADHD this year at 41 yrs old and can see how my struggles growing were from that. But I was and still am not great at socializing so I don’t quite know how to help either.

Any suggestions on how to support her being calm and kind at school? How to keep her stress lower so she doesn’t explode on them? How do we foster these close friends and community for our girls? Thanks for your ideas