u/Ihrtt

For context I am 18 going to college and I'm thinking of going to dorm, I told my mom about it briefly, she said she doesn't think I should do it. I signed up anyways and I decided to tell her officially a couple days ago. She was not happy.

I have a full ride scholarship and another scholarship paying for the dorm and other necessities. It’s only 10 minutes away. And for my full ride scholarship I have to have a 3.0 and higher gpa so they provide a lot of resources that are beneficial for my success.

It’s not that she not letting me go she is, but she wants me to stay home for the first two semesters to see if I secure the scholarship first. That’s not the only reason, she thinks I’m wasting money if I go dorm, she says there are bad people out there, she’s scared of me having a baby, and it’s only 10 minutes away.

I’m not gonna lie those are reasonable, but not enough to make me want to stay. I’m not oblivious to those kind of things and the majority reason she doesn’t want me to go is because my boyfriend is going to the same college. She thinks I’m gonna waste my studies on him, he was never the reason I went to the college I went to, I really want to go and try to be a little more independent, I want to experience college and take any opportunity I can get, and if I have everything covered It’s a great opportunity. I know college isn’t shits and giggles I know it’s draining and hard it’s not easy and I’m hoping staying on campus will help me connect and use my resources.

I talked to my sister and my aunt they agree with me we see my moms side, but they said if they had the choice they would’ve liked to experience living on campus too. I feel bad for going against her, but this is something I really want for me.

She texted me yesterday and it felt really overboard and just pushed me to want to go more. I don’t think she was trying to control me but it felt like it. I know she doesn’t want to let go of me yet, but I’m not going anywhere I’m literally 10 minutes away.

Please give me some of your advice!

For context I am 18 going to college and I'm thinking of going to dorm, I told my mom about it briefly, she said she doesn't think I should do it. I signed up anyways and I decided to tell her officially a couple days ago. She was not happy.

I have a full ride scholarship and another scholarship paying for the dorm and other necessities. It’s only 10 minutes away. And for my full ride scholarship I have to have a 3.0 and higher gpa so they provide a lot of resources that are beneficial for my success.

It’s not that she not letting me go she is, but she wants me to stay home for the first two semesters to see if I secure the scholarship first. That’s not the only reason, she thinks I’m wasting money if I go dorm, she says there are bad people out there, she’s scared of me having a baby, and it’s only 10 minutes away.

I’m not gonna lie those are reasonable, but not enough to make me want to stay. I’m not oblivious to those kind of things and the majority reason she doesn’t want me to go is because my boyfriend is going to the same college. She thinks I’m gonna waste my studies on him, he was never the reason I went to the college I went to, I really want to go and try to be a little more independent, I want to experience college and take any opportunity I can get, and if I have everything covered It’s a great opportunity. I know college isn’t shits and giggles I know it’s draining and hard it’s not easy and I’m hoping staying on campus will help me connect and use my resources.

I talked to my sister and my aunt they agree with me we see my moms side, but they said if they had the choice they would’ve liked to experience living on campus too. I feel bad for going against her, but this is something I really want for me.

She texted me yesterday and it felt really overboard and just pushed me to want to go more. I don’t think she was trying to control me but it felt like it. I know she doesn’t want to let go of me yet, but I’m not going anywhere I’m literally 10 minutes away.

Please give me some of your advice!