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What are some red flags in AM process that if we notice them, we should either run away immediately or confront right away?

Hi,

My family received a proposal for the second time through same relatives. Initially, it was rejected or rather they did not proceed because of the age gap. I am a 25M and she is 1.4 years older than me.

The first time, my relative shared my biodata with her family and her biodata with us. But before we could make any decision the girl's side declined the proposal because of the age difference.

But now they seem to be comfortable with the age gap and are willing to proceed. For context after 4-5 months.

What should I do? On paper, everything seems fine but thought of age difference is bugging me now.

Is there any running group in nadiad.

Currently, my parents are searching for a match for me through friends and family. So far, I have received around 10–12 biodatas. Out of those, I liked 3 matches, but they did not move forward because of kundali or location mismatch. Another 6–7 matches did not feel suitable to me in terms of education, family background, or physical appearance, and my parents also agreed with those decisions.

However, there were 2 matches where I felt confused. Everything seemed fine on paper, but I was not genuinely attracted to them. I also felt that it would be unfair to the girls if I agreed to marry them without being fully sure or emotionally invested. Both matches had long stories behind them, but to make it short I rejected them.

My parents became very angry because they believed those matches had many good qualities and benefits(not related to money).

Since then, I have started feeling guilty and confused about whether I made the wrong decision. I am also beginning to doubt myself.

Some relatives are blaming my parents, saying they were unable to convince me, and seeing my parents sad is making me feel even more guilty.

I just feel like going somewhere alone where I do not have to face all of these things. I also feel that maybe marriage is not meant for me.

And I wrote everything in short. There were lot of back & forth and arguments and all.

I just shared this because I am feeling down actually so bare with me.

Hi,

I feel like I’m getting rejected by girls, and I’m trying to understand what could be wrong.

I’m 25M, 5’7”+, working as an SDE, and I earn well enough. I work in hybrid mode. I’m Maharashtrian, my office is in Pune, but my hometown is in Gujarat near Ahmedabad. I wear glasses, have a fair skin tone, and I consider my looks above average.

I don’t drink or smoke.

My parents are looking for a match from Maharashtra, so I’ve concluded that the possible reasons for rejection at the biodata stage could be:

1. My height

2. I wear glasses

3. My hometown is in Gujarat despite being Maharashtrian

*My parents are searching through family, friends and whatsapp groups.

Hi, I'm Maharashtrian, based out of Gujarat near Ahmedabad, and working in Pune.

I’m an SDE, and I come from a humble family background. I will be honest, my family is a bit conservative.

Most of the time, I’m a bit of a boring person when I’m alone, but I become more lively when I’m with friends or family.

I’m looking to meet someone who’s a working professional, independent in her own way, and values honesty and loyalty. Not asking for much but we should genuinely enjoy each other’s company. If that’s there, we’ll figure everything else out together.

If this felt even a little relatable, that's probably a sign.

I am a 25M. I am 5'7" and consider myself above average (but looks are subjective though). I work as a SDE and earn well enough.

I am looking for someone with a decent looks and family background and I prefer a working professional (cherry on a cake if the work location is same as mine)

It has been 5-6 months since my parents started looking for a potential partner for me, mostly through relatives and family WhatsApp groups.

I did find some matches I was interested in, but in most cases it never reached the talking stage. There were also some matches where I was not interested, but my family and relatives kept pushing me. However I got out of those situations and pressure somehow.

You can call me delusional, but I believe I will find someone who’s right for me. By “right,” I don’t mean perfect but just someone I genuinely enjoy spending time with.

My family is trying hard to find a match for me. My parents prefer someone from a known family background, and I understand their perspective. They’re hesitant about completely unknown families because of some negative experiences they’ve seen in our neighborhood, and their concerns are valid.

Because of this I sometimes wonder whether I’ll be able to find someone I truly want to be with through an arranged marriage.

Should I start using dating apps or matrimony sites?

But I am just a little skeptical of it.