Would you rather be loved in life and hated in death or hated in life and loved in death
Option 1: While alive you are seen by people as a kind and loving person and you are celebrated wherever you go or when you’re mentioned… but when you die disturbing secrets and rumors come out about you doing extremely awful things (true or not) and eventually everyone curses your name. People spit when they hear about you and your name becomes synonymous with words like “scum and evil”. For the rest of history you are seen as a terrible figure.
Option 2: In your life you are seen as weird, annoying, and arrogant by those around you. You don’t have many friends and are seen as an exile in your community cause many think you are responsible for doing something truly awful… but when you die, the bad rumors against you disappear and people start seeing you as good person. With hindsight people see how truly great your actions were and your name becomes synonymous with “good”.