u/Ill-News-4733

now there is a buildup. i used sprayaway glass cleaner several times but it just sorta smears everything around.

what will remove it?

help!

he has to ruin today! why you ask? because his kids and i have called him out for years and tried to hold him accountable when he would ruin my actual birthday.

so, the clever little turd is determined to ruin the day before. hahaha! how perfectly unexpected.

so far he has told me that he cant f’in stand me on repeat. said he is not joining the dinner planned for me (oh noooo). complained about having to get my cake. bemoaned not having any $ for said celebration. said that I’m too difficult to buy for. called me a nag over and over. given me the finger. and drumroll please….. told me that I AM certifably mentally ill, psychotic , and “need help”!

hahah. if this clown only knew that I could care less how he feels about me. and if he doesn’t join my celebration- that would actially be preferable. 🤷🏻‍♀️. and he didn’t complain when he custom designed a birthday cake for his “work wife”.

textbook.

Happy Birthday to me!

my husband has done this for years - he will text, email, or in conversations use random quotes. It’s like he’s playing a role in a movie. often the quotes don’t quite fit the scenario, sentiment, or mood.

For example, i was taking my mom to check in for a very intense inpatient treatment that will last weeks and is her only hope. literally. She has Stage 4 metasatic Melanoma. so he texts her this overly sappy text and then ends it with, “A ship in the harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”

when i get home he’s all tickled with himself and asks how she liked the nessage. I said something to the effect of “thanks for the enrcouragement”,

but he persists….So i say- the quote always meant to take chances, don’t always choose the safe options, choose the adventure instead of staying home to me, etc.

“maybe a little tome deaf” i reply.
“Doesn’t it mean that to you, i ask?!?”

in my head I’m thinking- this isn’t a trip to Europe or something or choosing a new career path— it’s a last ditch life saving effort.

He gets all defensive and sputters, “it was in a movie!” BINGO! it is like this man cannot have a genuine, authentic interaction. he has to recall how a person handled something similar in a movie.

wow. pathetic. its unnerving that they don’t even know how to be a human.