u/IllCaterpillar810

Hi everyone. I’m really in need of advice and support. My mom’s cancer has relapsed and I plan to visit her in the coming weeks. I live out of state so I’m flying in for several days. She’s been dealing with bedbugs. From what she reports it’s a mild infestation, and she’s done everything in her power to treat them (besides getting an exterminator. I’ve talked and pleaded to no avail. I think she just doesn’t have the capacity right now). She says she hasn’t been bitten in a while but I know that means little. I would greatly appreciate advice on how to visit her without bringing bedbugs back on the airplane or my apartment when I return. I’m planning to pack a bag of clothes that I will leave there for future visits to reduce the risk of hitchhikers, but I’m not sure what else I can do. I’m a very diligent (and paranoid) person, but I can’t not be by mom’s side during this time.

My (BW) boyfriend (WM) let me look at his text messages today. (We’ve been dating for 5 months) I know it’s unhealthy and I don’t intend to ever do it again, even though he suggested it. I see him mention me in a text to his best friend. I click to read it. He said “ I’m not complaining but anytime i'm at the movies with my girlfriend she is like a stereotypical black woman in a theater and i'm just gonna have to live with that. I need someone to know this because it certainly can not be her.”
I was trying to understand what would even prompt him to say such a thing, because I was out of town when he sent that and we haven’t been to the movies in a good while. I look up our past text convos and exactly 5 minutes before he said that to his best friend, he and I had been texting about how much I love the movies (it’s my fave thing) and how glad I was to have him as a movie date. Am I overreacting to this? I am so hurt. I feel degraded and racially targeted. It’s not the first time he’s said something racially harmful without thinking. He always apologizes deeply but idk if I can recover from this hurt.

How do i move past this? Has anyone in an interracial relationship been hurt by their partner like this? How did you respond? Please help me.

TL;DR: my white boyfriend said
Something racially insensitive about me to his friend . What do I do?