u/Ill_Adhesiveness8013

I don’t really know why I’m posting this other than I feel embarrassed and lonely and I don’t really have anyone in my real life who understands this

I’m a woman in my mid thirties and I’ve been injured for a while now
It took me years to even feel comfortable enough with myself to try dating again after my SCI
I finally worked up the courage to put myself on Bumble a few months ago and I met someone who, for a little while, made me feel normal again
Like maybe my romantic life wasn’t over

Turns out he was married with two children, and on top of that he had a fetish for disabled women
I don’t even know how to explain how humiliating that feels
I already struggle enough wondering if anyone could genuinely want me or if they just see the chair first
Finding out I was basically some fantasy for someone who was lying to me the entire time honestly crushed me more than I expected

The worst part is I actually let myself believe it for once

Now I’m sitting here thinking maybe this is it for me
Maybe I missed my chance at having a real relationship before my injury
I look around and everyone my age is married or having kids or building lives together and I feel completely stuck outside of it all
Still living with my parents

I know this probably sounds dramatic, but does anyone else here ever feel like dating becomes impossible after a certain age?
Is it actually possible to find a normal, genuine relationship as a disabled woman or am I kidding myself?

I just feel really tired and defeated today

Hello everyone,

High quadriplegic (no use of hands) gal who is trying to get back into gaming

I own a PS5 (it's actually my sister's) and was wondering what you guys use for gaming
I haven't played anything after getting injured and really want to play the new Resident Evil: Requiem

Are PC setups better?

Thanks,
Emily

Hi everyone,

Looking for a nice restaurant for my mum's birthday dinner, preferably with good wine. We're from Belfast but she will be spending the week in Liverpool.

Any recommendations?

Hello everyone,

High quadriplegic (no use of hands) gal who is trying to get back into gaming.

I own a PS5 (it's actually my sister's) and was wondering what you guys use for gaming. I haven't played anything after getting injured and really want to play the new Resident Evil Requiem.

Are PC setups better?

Thanks,
Emily

Hi everyone,

I’m a high quad female and I’ve been injured for nearly 7 years. My care is technically covered through the NHS and I do have carers coming in regularly, but my main caregiver in everyday life is still my sister.
I’m starting to worry she might be burned out, or at least heading that way, and I’m not sure how to approach it without making her feel bad.
Over the years she’s given up a lot. She used to go to uni, but dropped out. She stopped doing a lot of her own activities, doesn’t really go out with friends much anymore, and she recently ended a long-term relationship. My mum is too old to do any of my care, so even though paid carers come in, my sister is always around as the second person helping, filling gaps, managing things, or just being there in case something happens.

I’m really grateful for her, but I’m also worried that her whole life has slowly become about my care, and I don’t want that for her. At the same time, I’m very physically dependent and I know it’s not as simple as just saying “go take a break” when she feels like she has to be nearby.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, either as a disabled person or as a family caregiver? What are signs of caregiver burnout I should look out for? And how can I bring it up in a way that feels supportive.

I’d also love advice on practical things that might help her get some of her life back while still making sure my care is safe and covered. I’m in the UK/NHS system, so any UK-specific suggestions would be really helpful too.

I've had the Nexplanon for over 3 years and was told when it reached may this year I should remove it and apply it again on the other arm

I didn't have any major side effects from it but now near the end I have been bleeding nonstop

Since late November/DECEMBER!

Has anyone experienced this? Help