u/Ill_Cartographer9170

1st: Front Driver wheel well have a feelable/audible clunk when hitting bumps on the road. Only does it when its ONLY the front driver wheel. It's both wheels hit the say speed bump, the noise doesnt seem to happen. Any thoughts? Strut was replace last year with quikstrut. Does the strut mount get replaced with the quikstrut? My FIL has all my Jacks under our project car so all I have in a simple floor jack which I don't wanna be moving shit t9 try and reproduce the noise while under it with just a floor jack.

2nd: While under the car looking for cause of said clunk I looked at my RMM, it seems that it is twisted? I haven't looked a a RMM other than pictures online. Is it supposed to have a slight twist to it. If not, how major of a problem is this? I know RMM is stupid eash to swap, how difficult are the other mounts to do, if i wanted to just replace all of them.

3rd: I am switching to the Koni Orange Struts, but my mechanic who im doing it with says that I should probably replace my springs as they look "tired" but I can't find OEM ST springs for sale anywhere, not even RockAuto. I can't lower the car because I already scrap in my driveway on stock ride height unless I am going super slow or backing in.

4th: Front strut blew last year (Driver hence replaced), dented my front fender outwards. 4.5in sized dent and it shifted my entire panel just slightly. Is this too big to take to a shop to try and have it reshaped, and if so where could I buy a fender (painted), to just swap in.

Recently just paid off the car, so looking into doing modifications that will increase the longevity (145k miles), but also want it to look nice. Any tips or recommendations. Repainting the back fenders this week, and just ordered the old Focus SVT 10 spoke Rims that im getting powder coated.

Currently have Injen Exhuast and HAI Intake, fatter tires on stock rims and ride height. Lmk thanks guys. Best car community out there.

If this isnt the place for this im sorry, and I'll remove it, but i genuinely have no idea where to go because this feels like a mental health issue, and I want to get them the support or help they need and try and figure out how to defuse what feels like a nuclear bomb of everyone getting hurt. This feels so little compared to some of the other posts on here but it feels big to me so im hoping to find some support or ways forward.

I've written this a few times trying to balance context with as much as necessary without over explaining. So if I miss something that feels needed or needs clarification, people ask.

Not really sure if this is the place for this, if not please guide me because im lost and losing my friends to their own self destructive behavior.

Me and friends went drinking, friend Apple was post messy breakup by a few months but still not great overall.

Friend Apple(20's) and Friend Pepper(30's) along with some other friends get black out drunk, like falling over, incoherent sentences, throwing up, kinda drunk. I am DD.

Leave bar at basically close, Apple and Pepper arguing about something stupid but harmless, get in eachothers faces. Apple kisses Pepper, very clearly initiated by Apple. Most would consider it just a peck for context. Pepper had been flirtatious with Apple all night, and Apple wasn't super flirtatious back but at some points did, when they weren't trying to text they're ex (which i put a stop to pretty early in the night).

After just a shitshow of people running off and lost stuff, and Pepper getting EVEN more drunk with shots at another bar with strangers, I get everyone collected and drive them home. All friends except me, Apple, and one other are to stay at my house which is farther, so we drop off Pepper and others at Peppers. Apple is throwing up, so they go inside and refuse to leave the guest bathroom of peppers house.

Here is the point I feel the most regret for is not going inside and getting Apple and taking them home. I feel like such an idiot based on the previous events of the night I dealt with. I feel responsible for all this shit and it has been quietly eating at me since I was responsible for everyone as the sober party of the night. But I was so beyond over the night, it was so late, I was miserably tired and headache so as soon as Apple kept refusing I kinda said fuck it and left, told the most sober of the group staying there to keep an eye on Apple.

So here is the hazy, fuzzy, unreliable part of the night. These are one sided details from Apple, as Pepper claims to have ZERO recollection of the night, and after watching how much they drank, I would be inclined to believe that. That amount of alcohol would've sent me to the hospital.

The claim here is that Pepper got Apple off the bathroom floor and into the guest room, took off theyre jacket off, and then kissed her or kissed them and put theyre hand in theyre shirt or tried to take the shirt off idek. The story has changed and I feel like I've never got the full thing so there is some unknowns. Apple basically told them to fuck off, a clear refusal of consent, and Pepper seemingly got the hint and left. Nothing further occured to my knowledge.

Here is the part I need help with. After this event went occurred, Apple spiraled hard, serious depression, not going into work for awhile. Mentally very bad apparently. So I feel like there is something more but ive got nothing more than what has been told. I feel for them, and i want to support them. Helped convince them to get into therapy(they are now). Helped try to mediate a conversation between the two, but Apple completely refuses any contact. Pepper has tried to apologize, it did seem a bit half baked but also Pepper says they remember nothing so I feel like they are trying to apologize for something they feel they didn't do.

They both work for the same company, different departments, that's kind of how we all met. Apple went to HR in an attempt to get Pepper fired, or Peppers work VISA revoked(very scary time for that). Apple is constantly saying they are going to file a criminal report, and is now filing a civil suit for lost wages and mental distress. I am likely to be called as a witness i believe? and if I testify as I know the facts to be and as the only sober party of the night, it would destroy my friendship with Apple or possibly both. I've already basically had to cut ties with Pepper because Apple (who is the closer friend) wouldn't accept that im still friends with Pepper.

This feels like a revenge plot to destroy Peppers life and it feels like its going too far and that it isn't even about Pepper but something larger, like a need for control which i can get after all they has been through previous to that night, but it is actively causing me so much stress and anxiety and I can't say anything to Apple without making it worse somehow.

PLEASE tell me if im wrong, but based on the events of the night, the flirting, the initial kiss, then the non-consensual kiss, which i agree VERY NOT OKAY, but i feel like Pepper in a drunken state read the signals that were given off by Apple, and logically thought it might have been okay, and then as soon as consent was rejected, stopped. It feels like its being taken too far and someone is gonna get seriously hurt out of them and that Apple instead of trying to heal just wanta control and revenge, and is ignoring all avenues of healing that are more constructive rather than destructive.

Again, I want to reiterate, that I may not have the facts after dropping off correct as we have one side of the Story from Apple, and even that story has changed and also feel like I have never been given the full story which could account for the what seems like an overreaction and Pepper who claims to remember absolutely nothing about the whole night so I can't even ask them Their side.

This is bleeding out into my life and i feel like this whole shitshow could push me back into a bad place that I fought so hard to get out of but I don't want to lose anybody else, as I barely have anyone to begin with.