u/Ill_Tumbleweed_3739

I’ve always been back and forth on my nose but the more I see it in candid photos the more I dislike it. I personally think it’s pretty bulbous and don‘t like the way my nostrils stretch so much and my nose tip droops when smiling or moving my face… I‘m very insecure of that and try to squish in my nostrils with whatever muscle is there whenever I smile but my friends think it looks ridiculous and it kind of does, but I hate my nose looking wide. Photos 7-9 are candids, pretty rough imo. 9 is me smiling (weirdly and not as wide as usual, another candid sorry lol but it gives you the idea of what I think looks weird) without squishing my nose in. I feel like it looks pretty wide. 😭 Anddd the last two are the nose I have vs the nose I want. Only issue is, I’m not sure if I want to go the full nose job route as surgery looks pretty scary and I’m cautious of complications. So I’m wondering if it would be worth it!

Other advice for anything else is very welcome! I’m currently working on my skin and maybe trying to find bangs that can cover the forehead and still look good lol. And I accidentally over-shaved my brows in like half of these pics, I’m definitely letting them grown out, the drawn on parts will not be staying haha.

Please be super honest! I won’t ever get offended if you’re helping me out. 💗

EDIT: I’m sorry if my views on my nose seem a little extreme. I know it doesn’t look awful of course but I’m still quite insecure over it and am just wondering if surgery is worth it for what I want to address or if I’m being a little ridiculous over it. I personally don’t like it on my face but I know other people have other perspectives so yeah I‘m kind of hoping that maybe I have it wrong and it’s not as bad as I think?? 😭 And regardless I’m still looking for advice in general.

I’m sure you‘ve all seen posts like mine before and I’m so sorry but I’ll be adding to them today 😭.

I was just watching Noah Kahan's performance on SNL and I literally teared up so bad, it brought me such a deep mix of emotion and sort of longing to be on stage doing my own thing like that. This happens to me with many artists whether I even personally like them or not, there's always just this crushing 'oh I wish I could do the same' feeling on my end. I think performing, singing especially, is my true passion and dream. Like I love it so so much and struggle to even put it into words. I can't see myself doing anything else. I'm a highschool sophomore and I know I shouldn't worry as much as I do, but the stress of choosing a major lately (dual enrolled) has gotten to me. I guess I don't want a normal career. I'd rather be on stage or singing somehow, but I'm sure I’ll have to just pick something stable and go with it.

Anyways. As much as I want to get out there and sing and maybe even chase a career some day, I don‘t feel like I'll be good enough. I'm untrained, my pitch is just fine and I can hold a tune alright, but l'm no Ariana Grande. I have a pretty low voice for a girl and sometimes feel like my tone sounds odd, other times kinda cool, but mostly wack. The only thing I really have going for me now is stage presence; I'm nervous on the inside but according to teachers + directors I look entirely confident on the outside. I've gotten a lot of compliments on my charisma from strangers after little showcases, which helps my mentality a little. But regardless that doesn't mean much in the scope of things. There's still always this genuine ache in my heart and it hurts me so much because I know singing and acting is all I’ll ever want to do, but thinking realistically? Doubt I'd stand a chance at going professional.

I started writing songs a couple years ago too, and it's ridiculous but I have at least 400 finished and a few hundred more unfinished sitting in my notes app. I've wanted to be on stage since | was little, family even encouraged me, but I have always been too scared to audition so l kind of just sat there envying everyone else. That went on for years.

I've finally started taking local acting classes and maybe eventually I’ll make the jump to vocal lessons or something singing related. But I can't seem to bridge that gap and actually chase what I want. I’m even too scared to try vocal lessons which is pathetic I know but I’m just frozen at the thought of trying anything or going forward. I feel like I'm missing out and wasting time but I’m terrified to do anything about it. The best way to put it overall is that this crazy dream matters so much to me inside that sometimes I’d rather do nothing instead of fail. And I know I need to get past that but I don’t know how.

I think I just need advice / uplifting from people who might have felt the same way. I'm sorry if this is all discombobulated, I’m a mess rn. Thank you😭

18F Is a nose job worth it for the results that I want?

Singing is my passion but I’m too scared to do anything about it