How do you leave someone who didn’t do anything wrong?
I don’t even know if I’m making the right decision or if I’m just overwhelmed, but lately I’ve had this constant feeling that I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore.
The worst part is that my boyfriend genuinely didn’t do anything wrong. He’s kind to me, he cares about me, and we’ve only been together for almost 5 months, which makes me feel even more guilty for feeling this way now. We’re also in a long distance relationship, and this is my first relationship ever, so I honestly don’t even know if what I’m feeling is normal or if I’m just not built for relationships.
I think what’s eating me alive is knowing that if I end things, he’s probably going to think he wasted his time and energy on me. And honestly, I understand why he’d feel that way. But I never meant to lead him on or hurt him. I really did care about him.
I just feel like somewhere along the way I realized I’m not emotionally in it the way I should be, and now I’m stuck between hurting him by leaving or hurting both of us by staying when my heart isn’t fully there anymore.
I haven’t even brought it up yet because confrontation makes me shut down completely. I keep replaying conversations in my head and imagining him asking me “why now?” and I genuinely don’t know how to answer without sounding like a horrible person.
I don’t know. I just feel really lost and guilty.
(Also edited/formatted this with ChatGPT because I’m terrible at putting my feelings into words.)
TLDR: My boyfriend did nothing wrong, but I think I’ve realized I’m not emotionally ready for a relationship and I feel guilty about it.