Partners monitoring Libre remotely
My girlfriend has diabetes and I monitor her Libre readings through LibreLinkUp.
Today I was at work when I got a warning that she was dropping fast. I messaged her something like "you're on the rollercoaster again?" and saw her go steep dive down to 2.9 mmol/L.
She didn't respond, so after a while I called her. She was very panicked because she had been cleaning and had accidentally broken some glasswork belonging to her son. She was extremely upset about that and didn't really seem able to process what I was saying about the low.
I tried explaining that I don't monitor her because I want to interfere with her privacy, but because I'm worried she could pass out if she doesn't notice the low. I also tried reassuring her that her son would care much more about her being okay than about the broken glass.
But it was obvious that logic wasn't really getting through while in panic mode. She was still at 2.9, although the arrow eventually became flat, and stayed so 45 minutes. (i'm actually typing this while she is that low)
What I'm struggling with is what happens afterwards. Even when the hypo/panic has passed, she can still seem somewhat angry with me, almost as if my calling her and monitoring her was a violation of her privacy. I understand that she doesn't necessarily want someone watching her glucose all the time, though we agreed upon this, but from my side it's difficult to just ignore an alarm when I see her at 2.9 and she's not responding she may pass out as well (so far that happened only once in our relation though, but still i worry such). If she didnt pick up the phone i would have left office work (not my prio then) and driven 20 min home to her.
For people who have a partner, family member, or friend who remotely monitors their glucose:
How do you handle these situations?
Do you have an agreed procedure for when the alarm goes off? Do you only contact them if they're below a certain level or don't respond? And how do you deal with the emotional aftermath when the person is angry or feels watched, even though you were trying to keep them safe?
I'm not looking to control her glucose or tell her what to do. I'm mostly trying to figure out how other people balance: privacy/autonomy with the fear that something could actually happen.