u/Illustrious_Run4521

So I (F 25) met this guy (M 29) on a dating app back in January. Things were great! I really liked everything about him and we seemed to have a lot in common especially I. Our values (or so I thought). Over time things slowly started to get well - odd. He has a job In Medicine and I understood that maybe that could take a lot of time out of his day but it turned into me getting responses days or weeks later. He took a few random trips to go be with friends but on the trips he wouldn’t have any communication with me. I stared to feel kind of odd about the whole thing and had a few different conversations with him about it and what I was looking for, date to marry, etc. story goes on - we go out, have a great time, don’t talk for weeks, go out again. I just felt like I was more of an option if that makes sense.

By April I had become really weirded out by it and couldn’t look past it so we ended up cutting things off.

This last week, he randomly reached out to me told me he was thinking of me and wanted to get dinner when I came back from my vacation. I really don’t know what to think. My past experience with him wasn’t all the best and I felt like he wasn’t very serious about me or maybe the way he goes about dating. I’m also a little shocked by him reaching out after I had cut it off.

I don’t want to waste my time and I definitely don’t want to be a backup option. I just need another perspective.

So I met this guy on a dating app back in January. Things were great! I really liked everything about him and we seemed to have a lot in common especially I. Our values (or so I thought). Over time things slowly started to get well - odd. He has a job In Medicine and I understood that maybe that could take a lot of time out of his day but it turned into me getting responses days or weeks later. He took a few random trips to go be with friends but on the trips he wouldn’t have any communication with me. I stared to feel kind of odd about the whole thing and had a few different conversations with him about it and what I was looking for, date to marry, etc. story goes on - we go out, have a great time, don’t talk for weeks, go out again. I just felt like I was more of an option if that makes sense. I guess I got more of a bachelor vibe from him, the longer I went around with him I found out he would sometimes go to the clubs if friends went or raves and that was not something that had ever interested me.

Every time we would talk about it there seemed to be some kid. Go excuse and he would do his best to smooth things over. But not really change any actions.

By April I had become really weirded out by it and couldn’t look past it so we ended up cutting things off.

This last week, he randomly reached out to me told me he was thinking of me and wanted to get dinner when I came back from my vacation. I really don’t know what to think. My past experience with him wasn’t all the best and I felt like he wasn’t very serious about me or maybe the way he goes about dating.

I don’t want to waste my time and I definitely don’t want to be a backup option. I just need another perspective.