u/Ilostmynewunicorn

Boas!

Estou curioso se alguém já passou por isso.

Meses depois de iniciar contrato sem termo (ainda dentro do periodo experimental), dão-me um contrato novo onde as funções mudam radicalmente e refletem funções que eu não realizo nem nunca realizei nem estou qualificado para realizar. O motivo é a empresa fazer parecer que tem trabalhadores qualificados naquela categoria mesmo sem ter porque lhes dá jeito.

Deram-me um dia para assinar, obviamente disse que um dia nao chegava e mandei para analise para o departamento juridico da monha ordem profissional

O contrato nao fala em CCT por isso nao sei onde vou comparar a categoria com a anterior. Data de inicio e data de assinatura são iguais entre as duas versões.

Alguém já esteve numa situação parecida? Se assinar, como é que a empresa justifica ter-me tido vários meses a desempenhar funções totalmente diferentes, que em principio vou continuar sem fazer no futuro?

Obrigado!

Hello everyone.

First of all I'm glad I found this community because I wonder if it answers some questions I've always had. I am an only child, by the way.

I turned 30 this year, my mother will turn 58, my father turned 60. My parents have always been scared of aging and eventually losing their independence, and so am I. They have always been vocal about not wanting to go to a retirement home and be separated from their home and it scares me to think how I will deal with them aging into their 80s when the time comes.

But that's not the point of this post. The point here is my father's refusal of medical care, especially dental. He does not brush his teeth at all and has had broken teeth and a horrible smell coming from his mouth for at least 2 years now. Those teeth are beyond dead. He drowned the pain with whiskey and pain meds to not go to the dentist.

Early this year, in January, we had a huge scare. He went into septic shock. Got hospitalized in the ICU. Kidney failures, liver problems (he was an heavy drinker when he was younger), and widespread infection. He thankfully survived. My mother went to see him every day and I begged her to tell the doctors about his oral health but she never did.

I thought that after this scare he would be more cautious but I was dreadfully wrong, he still does not care. He went back to the hospital recently after a doctor found infection on his collon during a collonoscopy. Again I begged him and my mother to tell the doctors about his dead teeth so they could at least rule them out as a potential cause, none of them did.

I wanted to contact the hospital (I do not live in the same city as my parents so I was not there personally) but once my father knew about me wanting to call he blew a gasket and became aggressive with me. My mother will not take my side and will enable him by not doing so.

I don't know what to do. I have had dental problems all my life too and I also dislike dentists but I go because I have to and because I know the potential consequences of not going.

I have tried everything. I have tried to calmly reason with him. I have tried to tell him that I am also afraid but it is something that must be done. I told him about the consequences. I told about options: sedation, intraosseous anesthesia, general anesthesia. He will not even go there to get an xray and see if it is infected and discuss options.

At this point I am actively angry because his decisions affect everyone. One of my mother's brothers has been diagnosed with cancer and given 3 months to live. When he had sepsis in January my mother was forced to work from home, something she is not used to and decreases her productivity, and I was potentially considering quitting my job to go live with her if my father passed or became dependant on us. I am at the start of my career, I don't know the consequences for my own future if this happened. I don't even know how my mother would manage if anything serious happened again.

I am so thankful he survived and was given more time to start taking care of himself and he still refuses. He tells me to "shut up" and "grow up" if I tell him to go to the dentist and take better care of himself.

This does not apply only to dental care, both my parents dislike doctors in general and will not even go for checkups, but it is the (very likely) dental infection that is worrying me to hell right now, and I think about this every day. I'm considering getting into therapy with dealing with this being one of the main drivers at the moment. Both times my father went to the hospital he refused it initially. He verbally attacked my mother for calling an ambulance when he was on the verge of having a septic shock and he told the collonoscopy doctor that having pus in his collon was "normal"...

Any thoughts would be appreciated, thank you.