u/Iloveboba173927

hi everyone. I’m 18F and my boyfriend is 19M. We have been together for almost a year and a half.
Our relationship is generally really good, but there is one issue from the past that still affects my trust.
About a year ago, I found messages between him and his friends (19M and 20M) where they were speaking badly about me and being disrespectful. His friends would all would make jokes about me, send my social media posts around asking if he was fucking that or if I was better than his ex at doing it, and make fun of him for being serious about our relationship. They also encouraged him to act single, go out with other girls, and made him feel like caring about our relationship was something to be embarrassed about because they’d say he was whipped and in the dog house. While he wouldn’t really say a lot of the stuff or initiate it, he didn’t stand up for me except for once, which I felt pretty hurt by.
Around that same time, I also found out that when we were first talking, he had not been fully honest with me about texting other girls when we were first going out and didn’t tell me until I found out. What hurt most was that he had told me before that none of this had happened, so finding out later felt like a big betrayal. He also knew my dad cheated on my mom, so I have a lot of trust issues regarding honesty and cheating.
We argued, worked through it, and eventually things improved. However, after that he stayed in contact with the friends who talked the worst about me for a while and was not honest with me about it, which made rebuilding trust harder.
Since then, things have genuinely been much better. He eventually cut them off, our relationship has been strong, and I do believe he has grown and changed a lot.
Recently, he ran into that one friend again who would talk bad about me and asked how I would feel if they talked or hung out again (this guy trains where my bf works). I told him I would be okay with it only if he was honest with me and made sure there were clear boundaries, but I still feel nervous about being hurt again.
I do not want to be unfair if people can grow and change, but I also don’t want to ignore red flags or excuse disrespect.
Am I valid for how I felt with his friends speaking about me? Am I ignoring a red flag if he wants to rekindle the friendship with the guy who used to be his bsf?

TL;DR: My boyfriend’s friends used to disrespect me, encourage him to act single, and he was dishonest with me about both them and other girls. He eventually cut them off and our relationship improved a lot, but now he wants to reconnect with one of those guy friends that talked bad about me . I believe he has changed, but I’m scared of getting hurt again and I’m unsure if I’m being understanding or ignoring red flags.

hi, I was accepted to nyu Madrid as a liberal studies first year away student and I’m confused about the housing. To my understanding we only have the option of moncloa, but is there any way to get housed at a different dorm? If not, how is moncloa/el faro for students who lived there previously? it looks cramped and the kitchenette doesn’t have a stove so it doesn’t look like I can do a lot of cooking. It also doesn’t look like there’s a little living room area like the other dorms. Is it really that terrible?