WIBTAH if I stopped including my mom in stuff
Apologies in advance cuz this is LONG. Okay so I'm 14f and my mom has been posted in another country for work for about 3-4 years.
Even before that though, she and my dad have constantly been travelling for work my entire childhood and I was raised by my maternal grandparents (my dad came every weekend and my mom came every other weekend).
It was only during Covid when I experienced what living with them everyday was like.
When I lived in completely different states from them, and visited them during summer breaks and stuff before I turned 6, my mom was always pretty mean to me.
She was stressed about being temporarily unemployed then and used to scream at me for everything (like if I didn't get my homework, especially math homework, she'd scream at me a lot).
My dad was always the opposite and has never raised his voice at me. He's always been very patient with me, and he listens to my yap, watches movies with me on the weekends, helps with homework nicely, and I'm super duper attached to him.
So I'm now more comfortable around him and go to him for any problems I have cuz I just stopped doing it with my mom after her constant screaming when I was younger. Since then, she's changed and she apologized to me and everything, but idk why I'm not as comfortable around her.
Added to the fact that my dad works in my city now and lives with me while she doesn't, meaning we have a lot of inside jokes, she says she feels very excluded. But then whenever I try to joke around with her she's like "what are you trying to say? What are you trying to accuse me of?" to me.
Like yesterday my dad said he was more "hip" than her or something and I said "yeah because mom's from a different generation than both of us haha" (she's older than my dad and is gen x where my dad is a millennial), and she started saying I was calling her a pedo when I wasn't?
I was just trying to say she was a grandma since she didn't understand the abbreviations I said on text while my dad did as a joke. Like a younger people- cooler, older people- not cool typa joke, wdym I called you a pedo?
And it's not like she takes offense to these kinds of jokes normally either. My dad has said something similar like "haha I'm cooler than you cuz I'm a millennial and ur a gen x" many times before and she laughed along so what happened here?
Ik it wasn't delivery since my dad laughed and he always calls me out if my jokes' deliveries sound rude, so like?
I genuinely don't want to include her in anything atp. She just gets mad at me if I joke around and kills the vibe, then gets annoyed at me for getting annoyed. WIBTAH if I stopped doing it?