u/Imaginary-Equal-3479

Hi Reddit!

I’m a 30M and iv been single my whole life. I would say I’m charismatic, kind, funny and average or above average in looks.

I’ve been on numerous dates over the years, and even “dated” girls in the last, however nothing would last over 2/3 months. Iv never felt truely connected to someone.

I would say I’m decent at the initial phase of dating, mainly because I’m kind, funny, and actively listen and care about what people say. Although once it needs to get deeper I just don’t know how to do it.

My question: I think I’m emotionally unavailable, but how would I know and how does someone stop being emotionally available.

Only recently, over the last two years have I opened up to my friends (not my family though) about my feelings. Only recently, if I’m annoyed at my dad will I speak up and actually express myself. These thinks iv never done my whole life.

Now that I was recently rejected by a girl I liked, I’m trying to find out why I keep running into the same issues, and currently think I’m not emotionally available enough.

Dating is hard but I want to improve myself and if I have issues, I want to solve them

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u/Imaginary-Equal-3479 — 15 days ago
▲ 30 r/ENFP

As the title suggests - Im a ENFP guy who is charasmatic, emotionally intelligent, happy, kind. But I struggle with dating and have never had a long term relationship.

Im averge or above agerage in looks, and have gone on plenty of dates where majority are great, but they always end in the early dating phase. I dont know if I'm to nice, or to accomodating.

Do others have similar issues?

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u/Imaginary-Equal-3479 — 21 days ago