u/Imaginary_Status_534

This Mother’s Day, I went shopping with SS to get stuff for his mom. I made sure he called her on Mother’s Day. I did all of these things because it was the right thing to do, not because I expected anything in return.

I asked DH to model to SS that I am an important figure in his life. DH did great job. SS bought me a gift, we did a family craft, and we had my favorite dessert. I had a great Mother’s Day at home.

I knew BM wasn’t going to do anything. It’s a pretty high conflict relationship, and I don’t communicate with her, and DH does with strong boundaries. I was definitely not welcomed into the blended family even though I tried to support the best I could. I found the most peace when I disengaged from her, and I pour into my SS while he was with us.

So why does it still sting a little that she didn’t do anything in response for me? Am I being naive or unrealistic? Sensitive maybe?

My spouse and I coparent with my stepson’s biomom (they are divorced, and my husband was biblically free to remarry due to her behavior). She claims to be a believer, but the theology between households is very different. (Note: The relationship with biomom can be conflict heavy, and we make the choice to choose our battles, pray for her, and keep communication brief and kind. My husband only engages with her when it is best for the child. Any engagement with her around her theology would be unwise and cause unrest in my stepson’s life).

For instance, we are active in our local church, and she watches televangelists at home. Here is my concern: she is watching things that are very prosperity focused , with one of her favorite pastors writing a book called “35 Questions for Those who Hate the Prosperity Gospel.” My step son has two very different views of the gospel presented in both households. From a Christian perspective, what would you do to help your stepson know Christ?