Iam crazy or safety is not overstepping?
Hey this is getting me to gaslight myself but I also need to others views besides my friends and family. We separated 3 years ago, been divorced for 1 year and we have 4 yo. I asked for it. The marriage was draining me. I was angry all the time, i wasn’t able to have a conversation with out crying or yelling. I wasn’t allowed to be have feelings bc I was too emotional, my friends was his friends, my money was all towards the house. I don’t have any family here in the US, so my support system was few friends that I managed to get for myself. He have a child from his previous relationship and then both made my life leaving hell. I was always punish for something that wasn’t my choice or if I dare to say something I didn’t know better bc i didn’t have kids at the time. During the pandemic our relationship got better bc was just us so he didn’t have anyone to show off how “terrible” I was, that’s why we decide to have our child. After birth I started therapy and yeah im not angry person, im not horrible, I don’t need to yell to be heard. Now for the part why you are reading this. My ex is being dating for over a year now. Last summer my child told me he has 2 moms, I was confused bc he is bilingual so maybe he doesn’t what he was saying and I corrected him that maybe he means he has 2 grad moms and he said no, I have you and ANOTHER mom and they went camping. So I asked this dad what was that about he tried to brush off and I got mad, he said that our child heard her child called her mommy and repeated. So told him to correct that bc that was not ok, this is continuing to this day he doesn’t correct our child. I asked him her name so I could also correct him when he tells me something, he refuse to tell me her name. So I went online and found her social media, her name so I could start correcting my child, this only why our child sometimes called her by her name. She took my child to the zoo, yeah innocent enough but I still haven’t met her yet and just a reminder if i didn’t look her up i wouldn’t even know her name. So I did look deeper and found her number, I asked when I was meeting her, ex told me she was coming for our child graduation party, I told him she was not invited bc I don’t know her and she had more than a year to met me. I called her asked if we could talk she said she would called me back and that was 2 weeks ago. I called her again today she didn’t answered so I told her I was gonna do that over text. And I was give an “respect my boundaries” stop texting and calling me. I told her she lost that “privilege” right after refusing to respect mine. I told her my child has a mom, she is not allowed to take him out with out a family member. And now ex is calling me weird and a stalker, and she will talk to me when she is ready or when she wanted. AITA for texting and calling her?