Mice destroyed our relationship
We moved in together 10 years ago, at first all was good, we had a connection, intimacy was close and sex was very frequent, make out sessions even in public and lots of packing on the PDA, to use a phrase. But we were living in and old Victorian house, which had its issues with broken walls, poor electrics and wiring and basically it was a fixer-upper which needed love, sadly as I was to find out, like our relationship.
In time, two small children came into our lives and dealing with parenting had its challenges. I worked for a US bank and in my role in IT was expected to cover colleagues who were away or on leave, so trips to other offices were common, Frankfurt, Luxembourg, Madrid... sometimes in the UK up to Newcastle so at least not too far. It would usually mean a week away at a time. It was all 5 star hotels, new surroundings, sometimes learning a new language, or getting by in broken Spanish or German as most English guys do.
I tried to be chaste, but it was tough. In Frankfurt, a lady about my age took a shine to me whilst I was counting up all our expired Dell laptops and had to do a report for the London office back home. We went out for a meal, and things did get physical. Sadly she moved to another German company and left the business, but it put a strain on things at home.
Our house had an issue with mice, my partner would complain of hearing things scurrying about, I said it's an old house, just fill any holes with paper, I will deal with it later. I think she got resentment and we started arguing over the smallest things, my next trip away, the car I bought that got stolen, the fact I went and bought a luxury SUV from Birmingham to replace it, police recovering our first stolen car from Aylesbury and returning it and now we were paying finance for two and I couldn't get out of the agreement. I begged her to stay after she said she'd had enough. The children's nursery fees, her working from home, the lack of intimacy and my being away might have caused problems. Did I take her for granted?
I agreed that a pest control firm could deal with the mice, now so bold as to appear in the daytime, I was jealous of the mice, at least they got to breed, lol.
I think she took a shine to the guy from the pest control firm, he is from the same country as she is and speaks the language fluently. I never picked up on why he insisted on returning to check on the traps every few days or see if the infestation was under control.
I came home from the London office early one day to hear moans from the bedroom. Kids were in nursery. I walked in on the pair of them in our bed. She seemed to be enjoying it. I shouted at him and he jumped off, grabbed a towel. She told him to go to the bathroom, I thought she would tell him to get out.
She told me it's over, I had taken her for granted and was not pulling my weight. He is everything she sees in a man, and it has been going on for three weeks and she's contemplating moving in with him. I found her looking for properties in Romford where he's from and then she said we would have to co parent for the children and said she's moving out today and gave me the keys.
Her sister is helping her move, I am in bits.
I was busy yesterday trying to off hire the X5 and took it to auction. I just assumed her being in good spirits and laughing at YouTube videos meant we'd turned the corner and things would improve. She called me sweet when I did all the washing up, made her breakfast and put the bins out and we didn't argue. I feel blind sided by what happened. She's blocked me on socials. How do I get her back?
TLDR: Old home has mice infestation, partner unhappy due to neglect / work abroad, she hooked up with pest exterminator after resentment and dumped me