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So when I came to her for PCOS, she gave me the ultra sound and tested my A1C but she didn’t tell me about the diagnosis in the follow-up. She just told me in a message on the portal. And I had to ask her about the diagnosis. She told me I had PCOS while backing out of the room. I said “What should I do?” She prescribed me metformin but didn’t really communicate with me about that. I was on it for a month but apparently that was an accident because she meant to put me on longer. But my A1C is normal now so I guess that’s ok???.
I told her that when I eat pizza I get tired and my friend asked me if I had PCOS, she just said “That’s weird…” And told me “Eat low carb. Try to lose weight. You’re doing the right things.”

Ok…

It wasn’t until I went to my PCP that I was actually prescribed Spironolactone for my hirsutism. I didn’t even know what that was before! Or controlling my hormones was even possible.

Tw: death, medical neglect, mom

I’m fearful of having a bad OBGYN, because that’s essentially how my mother died. Her OBGYN told her she had fibroids but it was uterine cancer the whole time. I asked her to get a second opinion but she was too scared. She didn’t get one until she fainted and was in stage 3b. She survived 2 years after the diagnosis. Was in remission for 1 and it came back.

I don’t feel like my OBGYN would misdiagnose me or withhold testing but I do think she doesn’t support me or prioritize me sometimes but that could be trauma. I feel very supported by my PCP, however.

But when you go to look at my OBGYNs reviews, they’re all 5 stars except people who had issues with scheduling.

I also didn’t like her ultrasound tech very much at all. I felt like she wasn’t very gentle with me. And she was like “You don’t have a baby in there…yet!” Smiling even though I have an IUD and she just told me that her daughter had an IUD but had an ectopic pregnancy. I don’t want that.

When I went to KindBody to get my eggs froze, the ultrasound tech was way more gentle and KindBody isn’t even doing well.

I’ve been seeing it a lot on TV but never with a black woman and I want to read a book where this happens to a black woman

Kinda the way Gomez Addams kisses on Morticia Addams. I’ve seen this happen to white women women with dark hair in the media. However, I want to see it happen to black women so I can believe it will happen to me because I want it to happen to me.

It’s so romantic and sensual but not necessarily sexual

Examples I’ve seen:

1. Gomez kissing Morticia Addams in the Addams Family
2. Sonny Football kisses Katie on the wrist and arms in Never Change
3. Evan, the asexual magician in High Maintenance does it to Kym, the intimacy coordinator.

Please tell me if this has happened to you or if you’ve seen it done to a black woman in a movie, show, or book.

But please keep it respectful! But also don’t expect me to be a scientist either. I’ve been taking Pre-exposure prophylaxis or PrEP to prevent HIV for 6 months. I didn’t know it was available to cis women until Tamar Braxton announced that she takes it. Please be gentle.

ETA: It’s been about an hour since the AMA started. I thank everyone who’s asked questions so far. I’m going to wash and twist my hair. I should be done in 2-3 hours to answer more questions. Hopefully it’ll still be here!