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I’m a 51 yr old female. I had an infected failed root canal extracted 5 weeks ago for #19. On the other side I have nerve damage in the mental nerve/chin area with chronic swelling, burning and it’s triggered by pressure on the front teeth on that side and touch to the gum tissue along that area. It was from a break from a really bad car accident. 17 yrs ago. Still have ptsd. I was sedated for the extraction on 19. I also had a bone graft at the same time. I woke up and the other with the nerve damage was so bad, it hasn’t hurt that bad since the initial surgery to the break. I don’t know what happened but they didn’t even touch that side. It eventually calmed down to almost baseline but not quite. I need to get a root canal on that same side. I was told the tooth was cracked. I forgot which tooth it is, think it’s a premolar but it’s just outside of the nerve damaged area. I’m scared to get more work done. Is there anything to be concerned about? Also 5 weeks ago when I got 19 extracted and the bone graft, I had neck tension really bad and it’s gotten better but still hurts and at times my ear hurts, also still get pain along the jaw and had continuous burning in my chin and mental nerve area on the extraction side for the first few weeks and not it’s intermittent throughout the day. Some days I think I’m finally healing but then it flares again. Also seem to have tenderness in my neck just a couple inches below my ear. The first couple weeks it felt like a not or swollen gland but the swelling seems to have gone down a bit but still hurts and it’s all made my tinnitus worse. Any guidance would be appreciated. Oral surgeon just gaslights me saying everything looks fine and maybe it’s my age, or maybe I have a condition that keeps me from healing, or maybe d I just have migraines. Nothing to try to help me. He’s given me steroids for a week and 2 different antibiotics but that was in the first few weeks.

I am experiencing domestic violence and financial abuse. Still live with spouse but there is no communication. I’m going to certify unable to access spouses income. He withholds his income. We have a joint account and he puts in enough to cover half of the bills and groceries. I put in the other half. He puts in 200 more a month than I do. He is the higher earner. He pays the health insurance for the kids. I don’t know how much. I end up paying for mine and the kids groceries out of my personal account about once a month because the joint account going near 0 or in the negative every month. Since things are mingled together, I’m assuming I won’t be able to certify that I pay more than half for the kid?

I’m in my 50s. We have 2 teens. One will graduate this year and probably go to college. Spouse has a history of giving me the silent treatment that lasts weeks and months in our entire marriage. It’s always me begging and crying to make him snap out of it, just to have it happen again weeks or months later. He is very easily triggered. Me and the kids cannot question him. Anyway the last episode was it for me. That was over 2 yrs ago. We literally do not speak. He gives me passive aggressive rage. Slamming doors, putting things out of place to annoy me, buying things I buy or copying my behaviors to mirror me and assert control. It’s non stop and feels psychotic. We still live together. He hasn’t talked to me the entire time. This year he transferred our entire savings and tax refund to his personal account. Now he’s only putting enough in our joint to barely cover half the bills, I do the same but with miscellaneous expenses, we are near 0 at the end of every month. I’m obviously done. I do everything for the kids and work full time. I’m not from this state. I came here for him. I’ve been absolutely homesick our entire marriage. He refused to move back there with me. So I stayed. Then the kids came and I’ve been stuck. It took a very long time to see him for what he is. I always had hope or made excuses. We have our house a little more than halfway paid off. Our mortgage is less than rent. If I kept the house, I’d have to refinance to pay him out. I couldn’t afford the bills and mortgage on just my income. Even if I get child support for one, I might break even. I don’t know what to do. I can’t keep living with him and feeling his toxicity for another 5 yrs, until our youngest is an adult. I want to still go back home or at least have the option but I know the judges here won’t allow it. I have aging family that I’ve missed precious time with. Their years are limited. My mom is still there, but my teen wants to stay and I can’t leave him either. I have no other family or friends here. I’m so alone. I never made peace living here. Any advice is appreciated.