Our dog gets scared when my partner and I kiss
Help, What the title says, our dog gets scared/anxious when my partner and I kiss for longer than a pec or anything more intimate than that. When we kiss she typically try’s to get close to us, sitting right next to us nudging for pets to see if we will stop. If we don’t runs as far away from us as she can get something hiding under things and will pants. I don’t want her to be anxiety/scared, but I don’t know what to do/if there’s anything I can do beyond not kissing my partner.
For background She is an 8yr cattle dog mix we together have had since she was 7 months. We adopted her from a foster. She was returned once before we adopted her. She always been a bit nervous, but has gotten worse with age.
Since we got her she has always hated the car, she screams anytime we get in the car, the only exception is when she knows we are on our way home, or her daycare van.
She is reactive around our house to some extent with people other dogs, cats, sometimes bikes and scooter. This started probably 3-5ish months after getting her and is pretty bad with dogs and cats but only in our neighborhood. She does go to daycare, and she has to some extent gone since she was 1 she is on the shy side there.
She also develops anxiety around loud noises, thunder, fireworks, excessive wind in the last 3 years.
She does take trazadone as needed for the loud noises, and long car rides. And use to take a vet recommended supplement for anxiety (forgetting the name) but we stopped a few years ago because they didn’t seem to do much for her(after about 1-2years of taking them)
If anyone has any thoughts/tips/ suggestions I am all ears!
ETA: more behavioral context: she doesn’t appear really territorial of either of us against each other unless I am misreading signs. Her general attitude towards each of us is kinda stereotypical of kids and their parents. With me she will sometimes try to push boundaries, and prefers snuggling me. With him she prefers to play because they rough house more, but they still snuggle. She is generally more reactive when I take her out alone than when he’s there. and I take this as she views him more as a protector and me as something that needs to be protected.