u/Impressive-Plum3094

i just need to get this off my chest…. No pun intended 😏
Before we had our girl I always planned to formula feed.

I didn’t want to be stuck with a baby on my boob, I didn’t want to breastfeed in public, I didn’t want to be woken every 2 hrs through the night for a feed, I wanted my husband to do a share of the feeds, my mental health is fragile and with a lack of sleep this is potentially dangerous for me. I had anxiety over not knowing how much milk my girl was getting so giving her a bottle of formula alleviated my worries.

I am not against breast feeding of course not but if it’s not working surely other avenues need to be explored. Formula is not the devil!

So fast forward 10 months and our friends had a baby around the same time as us and mom is vehemently against any formula feeding to the point CPS had to be involved as she refused to let her newborn have formula and not breast milk. Baby needed it asap.
Their baby has Never slept and always seems hungry. The longest stretch of sleep ever was 2 hrs and after that it’s sleep cycle of 20 mins and then screaming for hours this has been the case from newborn to 10months old! I just think the poor kid is starving He looks sickly. He’s not put on weight. She plans to breastfeed him until hes 4 - fine if it works but not fine when the kid is hungry.

My friend is obsessed with her diet to the point she’s restrictive due to worrying about her baby having allergic reactions to everything she consumes. My friend told me it was selfish for mums to choose alcohol over breastfeeding.… as I was sipping on my wine 🤣

her husband is ready to leave. He confided in us that he’s jealous of my husband for being able to feed our daughter and create a bond. His kid just screams if he tries to comfort him.

The whole thing blows my mind. To think formula is that bad and openly say it to a couple who EFF. they even asked how well our girl is sleeping at we said 12hrs through the night…yet they won’t explore options.

Maybe I’m a selfish parent who has put my own needs before my girl but i don’t believe this even if others think this. My girl is thriving i am happy and well rested, my girl beyond content. My husband and I share the workload and my girl looks to both of us for love and comfort.

mamas who ever doubt giving formula know that you are Making an educated decision which is the best decision for you.

Edit: I was showing pics of our babies to my mum and dad who are both doctors and independently of one another they both said that little boy looks so unhealthy and not thriving.

Is this developmental or do I need to accept our girl no longer wants to be with us in bed?

We’ve been co-sleeping with our little girl since 4 months old. Since 7 months old she has slept in her crib in her nursery And will tend to come into our bed at around 4am, sleeping between us until 7am. The moment she would come into our bed she would fall straight back to sleep.

We are following the same routine as always but in the last few weeks we put her in our bed and she will not fall back to sleep 😢 she’s crawling/rolling/crying. I feel like she’s no longer comforted by the big bed.

She’s now 10 months old. Can this or will this get better or do I need to accept she no longer falls asleep in our bed?