u/Impressive-Ride-69

Going through a divorce with two daughters. Ex has a documented history of mental health issues that led to a serious crisis earlier this year where she was admitted to a mental rehab program. While in the program, she met a guy much younger than her. He has history of alcohol based of his social media posting (I also know he drinks hard liquour in the morning). She's now dating this individual.

Within weeks of them meeting she's already introduced him to her family and he appears to be spending significant time around my daughters. STBXW brought him to their recital. I confronted mom and told her how it was inappropriate bringing this fella so early on. She dismissed me. I then met them again and had an altercation with him (didn't get physical). During the altercation he had a liquor bottle in his hand the entire time.

We're in the process of divorcing and we still have the house and we're in the process of selling it. While she was in the program, we had both agreed during the time we are exercising timesharing with the children that parent would stay at the house, and who ever doesnt have the children would stay at our respectives parents house so the children can always stay at the house.

Well, now shes staying with him AT MY HOUSE during her days!

Apparently, I cant remove him or trespass him since by law she could "invite" him during her time.

I'm trying to stay calm and handle this legally and but emotionally it's eating me alive. Not because I have any feelings for my ex — I've accepted that chapter is over. But because I genuinely don't know this person and the circumstances of how they met and his apparent issues concern me as a father.

How do you guys handled this? Especially when the legal process moves slowly and you're watching something unfold in real time that doesn't feel right

So my STBXW was diagnosed with BPD. She was admitted into a mental rehab. Prior to that she has cheated on me. We got back together (stupid i know) i supported her while she was in the rehab. Then, she discarded me overnight. I then found out it was because she met a guy there 25 (shes 37) that has alcohol, mental, and smoking problems. This is her new FP.

Mind you, she never liked men with those issues as her father died from alcholism and smoking. She has changed so much. Im in NC but still have to deal with co parenting and now divorce.

Should I be concern? Would this new *supply last?

My wife and I are going through a divorce after 13 years of marriage. We have two daughters together. We separated last year and she immediately started seeing someone new — a guy who worked at her apartment complex. Despite that, I still wanted to try to save the marriage.

We had already drafted full divorce paperwork through my attorney, agreeing to 50/50 timesharing with no financial entanglements. But before we filed, that relationship fell apart and she had a change of heart. I gave her another chance. Because the guy she'd been dating worked at her complex, she agreed to move and I helped pay for a new apartment — yeah, I know.

What I didn't know at the time: I later found out through old security cameras that she had still been seeing him — on the same day we signed the new lease together.

She also has diagnosed Bipolar Disorder, depression, and BPD. Around this time her mental health got significantly worse and she was Baker Acted (involuntarily committed). During that period she was telling me she still wanted to work on the marriage. But while she was there, she met someone new — a man 12 years younger than her who reportedly has a drinking problem — and is now in a relationship with him.

I've officially filed for divorce. I'm fine with 50/50 timesharing continuing — that's not my concern. What I'm seeking is ultimate decision-making authority, meaning we'd still share parental responsibility, but I'd have final say when we reach a stalemate on major decisions like schooling, healthcare, and extracurriculars.

Given the pattern of impulsive decisions, the documented mental health history, and a new partner with reported substance issues potentially being introduced to my daughters, I feel like I have grounds — but I want to hear from people who've actually been through this.

Do I have a realistic case for ultimate decision-making in Florida? Is it worth pursuing or will a judge default to equal shared responsibility regardless? Is it even worth it?