u/ImpressiveAvocado581

Hi everyone, ive got another update for you.
So i know i was content with the way things wrapped up in my last post here but, things took a turn for the worst this past week and i have had it with my bs excuse of a sister.

So after the whole meeting transpired and i gave her until the end of the year to move, things with our pregnancies started getting real. I was planning for months on taking my announcement pictures at the beach. To me it felt more spiritual because im a cancer and have always felt drawn to water and my soon to be baby girl, will be a pisces. My sister said she was going to take hers at the park or somewhere woodsy and post soon (even though she hasn’t entered her 3rd month yet, im 5 months pregnant atp).

Last minute, she decided she was actually going to the beach this following weekend to take her pics there and already had all the stuff she wanted for it (premeditated af). Ofc i felt hurt like wow, i showed you my inspo and you steal it and do it before me?? But eventually i got over it because i mean, i dont own the beach and cant tell her when or when not to post, just because i havent yet.

So she posts (its her bday as well) and everyones overjoyed! She still isnt back with her babydaddy so it was just her alone in the pics. But then i notice a specific comment by a family member im not in contact with (the feeling is mutual).
They said something along the lines of “omg wow baby blank (my niece) wont be an only great grandchild anymore, she’ll have cousins!” PLURAL! So i immediately text it to my mom and sister like, what does she mean cousins plural if they only found out about my sisters pregnancy with 1 baby. Mind you, i told my sister a handful of times, they were the one person i did not want knowing because i didnt feel like rekindling a relationship just because of my baby. Especially since they had years before now to reach back out to me.

My sister gaslit me saying she didnt say anything to them and that if they found out, it wouldnt have been thru her. My mom called me paranoid. Now i know my gut and my intuition.. So i went into the room i let her move into, grabbed her laptop because i had her password prior to build my registry, and unlocked it.
Right there, dead center in the screen, ALREADY OPENED, was a message from that family member saying “Aw so&so is having a girl??”. I fucking crashed out because at this point, it felt like my sister was sabotaging my pregnancy.. I wanted this one thing and couldnt even have that. After i let her move in & kept her pregnancy a secret, she goes behind my back, tells that person and then steals and posts my announcement idea before i could do it.

I sobbed and called my parents and told them what i did and how i found out. Yes i was wrong for invading her privacy but she disrespected mine.. And they agreed with me that what she did was fucked up and i have every right to feel the way i did. I told them i just couldnt do it anymore and wanted to kick her out right then and there (but she is at her babydaddys house). So i decided that, after recollecting myself, i was going to wait until tomorrow since today is her birthday.

Tomorrow im going to tell my sister that she needs to get her things and leave. Not later in the week because she works but that day.

Im so devastated and hurt. Honestly i shouldn’t even be surprised that she did this, i just hoped things were different. That after not talking for over a year and rekindling, that she would actually have my back the way i always had hers..

So thank you guys, i know a lot of people said i lost my spine in the last post because i was too kind to my sister but she chose this outcome. This will most likely be my last post on the subject but no tea all shade, at least i have a partner to support me thru it all.

Hello everyone! I’m currently pregnant and talking about traditions i want to raise my child believing in with my partner. My partner ( he’s agnostic ) pointed out the obvious holidays like xmas and halloween but because im a newer witch, im not sure how to make pagan holidays fun and explain that they can be different than the typical ones.
I just find this a bit hard because none of our families practice witchcraft other than me. Mainly christian or catholic, so i know there will be some conflicting holidays that my child will be told about by their cousins and family members.
I also am struggling myself learning about them since i was raised in a horrible christian environment. So i’m wondering if maybe yall have any book recommendations? thanks in advance!

hello everyone!
I posted about a week ago asking for advice about how to gently tell my sister that i simply couldn’t afford to house her anymore and this is how it went.

So I took it upon myself to put my own personal feelings aside and text my sisters ex fiancé to invite not only him, but also my parents and sister for a family meeting at my place.

I specifically told them that if any argument / fighting started to happen, that everyone would be kicked out of my home. But most importantly, to be respectful because me AND my sister are both pregnant and don’t need the stress.

I basically told them 3 things:

1. that they needed to figure out their relationship problems on their own and to stop getting us involved because we have our own lives to worry about. and that their relationship is not ours to fix, period. which in the end, they both agreed on staying separate.
2. that they needed to plan what coparenting for them would look like now & in the future considering some prenatal appointments might have to have both of them present. Which went surprisingly well with the ex fiancé.
3. and lastly, that my sister would have to find somewhere to stay by the end of this year because me and my partner both agreed that 2 newborns under one roof would simply drive us mad. and that neither me or my sister would have any space in our rooms for a nursery which meant, i would need my spare room back for my own baby.

Of course there was mini arguments and a bit of yelling throughout this but at the end, we all came to our desired conclusions and that was that.
Once the meeting was over, we actually celebrated the gender of my baby because i also had just gotten my nipt results back.

Thank you all for the advice! Although i wasnt as harsh as one could have been, Im just so relieved that this weight on my shoulders has finally lifted.

For context: they are by no means in a healthy relationship, he’s cheated multiple times and she has involved the family by either calling for help or recently, moving in with me.

I (26F) and my sister (24F) haven’t always had the best relationship growing up, but after some family events which left me on my own at 17, we started to get close.

While i was navigating adulthood on my own, she was still in highschool and eventually got with this boy. Let’s call him Frank (25M).

My sister and Frank had 2 major fights before they even graduated highschool. He had a girl bestfriend always coming over at odd hours and to top it off, his parents and sister backed his behavior. His parents being on the old school side saying “you aren’t married yet, you can still date around” and his sister just never approved of mine.

Fast forward 2 years later, my sister and Frank get their first apartment after he proposed. During this time, he has already “attempted” to cheat 4 times already.

My sister was so enamored by him that it cost our relationship with each other to come to a halt for a year because I would try and gently talk sense into her. “Love shouldn’t hurt you over and over again.”

After we rekindled a year later, I stayed cordial with her fiancé but it was clear we did not like each other at all.
Then a sudden death happened in his family and he started to become aggressive.

He would yell at her, started treating my parents bad by giving attitude on church days, even so much as punched a hole in the wall and texting his girl coworkers, watching porn, drinking.

She got my grandparents involved at one point. They were preparing to have her stay with them but she ended up saying they made up and stayed. She got our parents involved by having them come and try to calm him down and she still stayed instead of leaving with them.

Another year passes and she confides in me, saying that she was finally emotionally ready to leave this relationship. That plus his continuous cheating. So I preparer a room in my home for her and she moved in.

When she moved in, me and my partner found out we were pregnant with our rainbow baby and we were so excited that this was a sign my sister was headed in the right direction (because she would get to be around for baby).

But then, the other night, my sister left the house without really saying anything. She turned her location off but i still had her life360. Even my mom noticed she went to a lake nearby that she always went with her ex. My mom ended up calling her out in the group message asking why she was there, to which she responded “Mind your own business mom”.

Her location was off shortly after she had arrived at her exes apartment.

I waited all night for her to come home and ask where she went but she never came home. Instead, she asked my partner while i was asleep, if they could leave the door unlocked for her when she gets home because she forgot her key.

After she came home, we got into a heated argument. I told her how disappointed I was that me and my partner (and our family) went through all of this trouble to get her on her own 2 feet only for her to go back that night. She argued that it was her life and that nobody could tell her what she could and couldn’t do otherwise.

So I told her she’s better off out of my house and because I do not like Frank, I don’t want any involvement in their relationship going forward. And she will not have access to me during my pregnancy OR after when baby comes.

Am I the asshole for not letting my sister be apart of my babies life because of this? I don’t want my child to grow up seeing this behavior or have any added stress if she were to break up with Frank again.

How could I go about trying to guide her without her feeling like I’m telling her how to live her life? She always cuts me off when i don’t agree with their relationship but is quick to go back to him even after he’s cheated 6 times.