u/Impressive_Compote53

My LO is going to be 3 months in a couple of days and he is very dependent on me to fall asleep. He hates the bassinet and requires contact naps and the bottle to stay asleep during the day but goes down easily now that I’ve figured out his appropriate wake windows.

I’ve had the same night time routine since he was 2 months old and I recently started to put him in a transitional swaddle since he doesn’t tolerate the restrictive one anymore and is starting to figure out how to use his hands and he wants to move his arms.

For the past week he has been waking up anywhere from 8 to 11 times a night and requires the bottle to go back to sleep. I wait 30 seconds once I start to hear him squirm then I jump in with a pacifier and he spits it out so I lay my hand on him and do some pats and 99% of the time he needs to be fed back to sleep. It always ends in me co-sleeping with him just so I’m not constantly getting out of bed and even then he is restless and only sleeps for 1.5 hours tops. I’m averaging 4 hours of broken sleep a night and I’m wondering if he’s gonna grow out of this or if he will grow out of being so dependent on the bottle. ANY information or advice at all would be so appreciated.

Just to add, my husband and I live across the country from our family and we don’t have any extra help from friends either so we are both just dying.

Sincerely,
a very exhausted mom.

Omg I am going through it. Since my LO was about 9 weeks he’s been extremely alert and aware of everything. Very much a FOMO baby. He turned 11 weeks old today and something has definitely shifted. He’s slightly more fussy during the day and requires being held, rocked, patted and fed just to get him down for naps and for bedtime (I’m literally holding the bottle with my neck to do all this) and doesn’t let me sit down until he’s tired enough and I’m fighting to keep him asleep at the beginning of naps because he’s attacking his own face with his hands and flailing his arms. The only thing that works is the bottle to get him back to sleep and at night time as well. His wake windows are also pretty short before he starts to get tired.

Not to mention the other night his longest stretch of sleep was an hour and 15 minutes with 11 wake ups and last night he had 11 wake ups again but was generous and gave me an extra 15 minutes. (I track this with his owlet sock) I put him in that swaddle that velcros inside and zips so he doesn’t keep waking himself up with his arms. I tried no swaddle and he kept hitting himself in the face and waking himself up.

I try really hard to make sure he’s not overly tired and to follow his cues when he is but omg is this the dreaded sleep regression everyone talks about? When does it end? I am seriously struggling.

My LO is almost 3 months and pp has been pretty brutal. It’s been hard adapting to this new life and my days are extremely monotonous. I’m still on maternity leave until the end of June and my husband works 5 days a week. I don’t have a lot of help because my family lives across the country and I don’t have friends here yet. I’m really struggling with some resentment I have towards my husband because he can do as he pleases and seems like everything sort of falls on me and becomes an expectation. I have to ask to do things for myself and I understand the roles are different for both of us I just can’t help but feel jealous he has more of a normal life than I do. I have sacrificed all of my time, career, and hobbies, and I’m trying to figure out how to cope with these feelings because I don’t want to feel this way at all. I want us to have a happier marriage because having our LO has put a lot of pressure on us in terms of things like score keeping with chores and i don’t think he spends enough time with him. I am up all night with him since day 1 and I sometimes get a break if I can go to the gym or shower but I’m expected to meal prep and cook and clean and if something doesn’t get done it matters more than what I did accomplish because “I’m home all day.” I just feel so much pressure and weight of having this baby and I don’t know what to do because if I say something he takes it as he doesn’t do anything at all and that is not my point. Has anyone felt the same? Do you have any advice on what to do?