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Hey, I was thinking about getting some qualifications in l order to get a specific remote job. The idea of working remotely and having the freedom of living wherever I want, not needing to dress up for anyone, having more time for my hobbies and potentially higher wages than locals + returning with my family when needed seems really aligned with my life priorities. But I don't really know how the actual experience of working remotely after some time is. I'm thinking about loneliness, spending time outside and other mental hygiene matters, the difference between working in person... I know it varies from person to person. So how has your experience been? Anything to consider when taking up a remote job?

Im 25 (Spain), at university I studied a degree in law bc of a mix of fear of pursuing degrees I liked far more (history, law, design - which I've always engaged with kn my free time as hobbies) and being unemployed afterwards and the curiosity of learning about a new field I knew nothing about, that intersects with areas such as philosophy, history or politics that interested me far more.

I didn't enjoy my uni years, since the uni environment wasn't the best and I decided to power through my studies (and probably not worry about facing my fears about leaving this path) which at the end of the second year I was very close to quitting. I wasn't interested in most of the subjects and going forwards the idea of working in the legal sector (very precarious in my country) disgusted me.

The only stuff I was interested in that had to do with law was policy and international law - int relations, I tried to pursue that path, but now I'm wondering if moving to another country, which would probably be required to work in this field, would even be worth it personally. It's an extermely hard field to get into, which I'm pursuing half-assedly if I'm being honest.

In my mind there are different competing future versions of myself: the creative designer, the history teacher/museum curator, the bureaucrat/accademic studying how to solve his country's problems (maybe the only options where my studies so far would be relevant), or promoting international exchanges, or simply the guy earning a wage that's enough to live decently, while pursuing passion projects in his free time.

All of the ikigai I've done and projecting myself in the fuure (10 yrs plan etc) have not been useful, meanwhile I'm not committing seriously to any path (even though I'm passively pursuing an international law career- whatever that means) and I'm stsrting to fall behind with my friends who are beginning to make their first steps in the professional world. Meanwhile I've sent countless CVs applying for jobs in NGOs, different internships or simply entry level legal jobs (to get some experience and a taste for the field) and I haven't been successful any single time. I even moved away for a year to study a master's in intsw, hoping would get some clarity and some internships like the ones I've mentioned, but I couldn't find any.

Now I'm in a situation where I need to choose what to do next year, and I'm honestly completely clueless. I feel like I'm wasting my family's support and my time and I'm noticing how I avoid thinking about this topic in order to avoid an anxiety spike.

Any guidance on how to think or reflect on the next steps to take, or on the person I want to be, would be appreciated.

I'm interested in this movement and I believe following nofap would be good for me. However I get the sensation that sometimes nofap is presented as a divine struggle and as if the fate of the world depended on it. I wonder what are some useful tips to just change your focus or whatever (besides just blocking porn etc) when you get the urge, without needing to become a monk?

Seguro que es un tema super recurrente, pero me da curiosidad saber vuestra opinión.

Los hechos como los entiendo yo:

Tras el fin de la pandemia la población de España ha aumentado en unas 650k personas anualmente, prevalentemente latinoamericanos, aunque también hay una presencia relevante de marroquíes. Muchas de estas personas llegan con visados de turistas para después regularizar su situación a través de algún tipo de arraigo entre los previstos por el Derecho de extranjería. tras una situación inicial de clandestinidad, por ello la regularización extraordinaria busca dar una opción de estancia y trabajo legal a las personas que se mantienen en esa situación (cumpliendo determinados requisitos)

El crecimiento económico y poblacional de España en los últimos años, ha estado ligado a este crecimiento de la población (el 90% de los nuevos trabajos son ocupados por migrantes). Sin embargo, económicamente se trata de un crecimiento extensivo y no intensivo. Los nuevos trabajos no son de gran valor añadido, por ello estos nuevos migrantes (en general también buena parte de la población), no ganan mucho más que el SMI, obteniendo rentas medias bastante inferiores a las de la población nativa. Por ello, viven en zonas más baratas, con menos recursos y servicios, con el riesgo de "guetización". Las segundas generaciones de migrantes progresan, pero con serias dificultades para alcanzar los niveles de vida de los nativos (estudios, renta...).

Estas personas se concentran en ciudades y especialmente en grandes ciudades (8 municipios de madrid entre los 10 municipios europeos que más han aumentado de población). Se argumenta que debido a este crecimiento de la población, los servicios públicos e infraestructuras (infrafinanciados), así como el mercado de la vivienda se saturan. Aunque este hecho podría achacarse a la falta de previsión y de políticas públicas eficientes a los gobiernoS que gestionan el territorio.

Por otra parte el debate político toca asuntos de "prioridad nacional" en la distribución de los recursos del Estado de bienestar, de demografía y pensiones, de identidad nacional y compatibilidad cultural, de la utilidad de los migrantes para cubrir trabajos que "los españoles no quieren" (mal pagados) y de la delincuencia (informal y organizada).

Pequeña nota: en cuanto a la delincuencia no se muy bien que pensar, aumenta en algunas ciudades pero en otras no. Además que es un hecho con infinidad de factores y uno importante es la edad, puesto que los jóvenes delinquen más que los mayores (los inmigrantes son más jovenes), y la pobreza.

Por tanto, como valoráis este proceso reciente? Debería seguir así o deberían modificarse las leyes de algún modo? Qué problemas y oportunidades veis?

Ok so I live in Spain and I'm 24, soon to be 25. In university I studied law after a lot of doubts and anxiety. At the time it felt as the best compromise between things I liked (History- my passion, philosophy, international relations, economics etc. I also was about to sign up to architecture since I love drawing, buildings and art, but chose not to bc I was bad at math, or so I thought).

After the first year where I actually had history etc, everything felt like a slog, I don't like the part of law that acually earns money and I don't want to be a lawyer (you need a specific master's for that) became the conditions are pretty bad, the market is saturated and I doesn't interest me too much. I came very close to quitting, but since I had finished my second year I thought I might as well finish the degree. I did so, couldn't find a job in anything, so I moved abroad to volunteer, then I stayed home paralyzed not knowing what to do for a year, looking for a qualified job while I figured my shit out and I couldn't find anything. During that year I did a course on geopolitical analysis. Tried to get into a master's for that and maybe work in international risk analysis, but couldn't get in (bureaucratic issues in one case, marks weren't good enough in the other). So I got into a master's in International Law (since it's the legal field that interests me the most) w/o a clear plan, hoping I would get an internship and get a feel for how thongs worked. But I didn't get any internship (yet- but I've got 1 month left).

So after this thing is over I've got no clue about what to do, I've been signing up to stuff that seems interesting (NGOs, EU and UN internships) but probably no one will take me. So if no one wants to hire me, I was thinking about getting into the civil service in an interesting position I've found + stability and income. The problem is I would have to study almost exclusively for 3-5 years. I don't even know if law is the right field for me, but idk what to do otherwise since I barely have any professional experience and I would be old by the time I finish sth new starting from now.

I'm very conflicted since I don't actually know how I want my life to look like. I don't even know if I want to live in my hometown close to my parents and friends or elsewhere (Madrid or outside Spain), right now I'm living alone and feel great, but that sense of community fades away and I want to be there if anything happens to my parents (only child). I gave up on childhood dreams so now I'm trying to figure things by doing them (pr

through professional experience) and finding compromises. I'm scared to pursue a thing exclusively since that means changing becomes harder and get analysis paralysis. I'm grateful for all the opportunities I've had and the support of my family, it's all on me I don't have a sad backstory to justify anything. But, I need to do something before it's too late, so how would you begin to disentangle all this?