u/Impressive_Regret420

I am a victim of domestic violence and my ex made a false claim against me and got a dvo on me.

For three years I was abused. And didn’t do anything until one night. Where I reacted in a way I never thought I would. I wasn’t raised to hurt women.

Looking at things. I realised I had a moment of reactive abuse. But she made it out like I was the abuser and she was the victim.

Her and her brother lied on the police report stating her brother was a witness to it all. Even though her message about what happened to my mother says he was asleep.

The court happened. The dvo was finalised.

But as of 3 months later. The brother has viewed my profile account on TikTok.

Am I able to do anything about this.

Even though I’m not allowed to contact. Which I haven’t been doing. They are allowed to contact. Which I don’t think is fair or right. If I have to follow these rules why aren’t the same rules being expected of them.

Is this stalking and harassment?

I don’t know why he’s viewing my account after three months since the last contact happened.

I live in Australia QLD.

The rules are very one sided and the police are very op one sided to everything being reported. In many cases it’s the actual victims being held as the abusers.

The problem is, her family have guns. I am afraid of what they might do.

The girl has said how she would kill me. She would chop me up and feed me to alligators. So the evidence is eaten and destroyed.

She has beaten me over three years.
Called me a faggot, a dumb cunt, a retard, a poofta, a cupcake.

Her brother has called me a faggot, a poofta and a cupcake:

They both made fun of how I run, walk, look and stand.

I don’t know what to do.
I don’t know if he’s doing this to harass me.

I felt scared when I saw his name pop up on the list that shows who has viewed your account.

I was in an abusive relationship for three years and had a moment of weakness were I experienced Reactive Abuse.

She has lied to the police about me. She is claiming to be the victim. Even though she has admitted through text that she wouldn’t have hit to me if I wasn’t annoying.

I even asked her. Why is it that the one night I do something that you’ve dished out for three years. Why is that one moment outweighs everything you’ve done to me.

She told me and I quote, “I was in control when I hit you, you weren’t in control when you hit me”

How is this fair that the I’m labeled the abuser and she’s the victim. I don’t understand the Australian government. All this happened in October and in march she lied to the police and I had cops rocking up to my door handing me a dvo notice. I don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this pain and suffering in every relationship.

Am I the bad guy.