u/IndecisiveExpress

This may actually be worse than “wow you’re so big!”

I’m 30 weeks. I’m huge. Like yes I’m a little overweight but not obese by any means. But my bump is huge. But people I work with have frequently asked “oh due any day now?” Like no, not even close, but being told “I couldn’t tell” may actually be worse, especially when it comes from someone who can’t weigh more than 100lbs. Like you just think I’m that fat and awkwardly shaped? That my weekend meals consist exclusively of a 24pack of bud light? Like wtf 😭

I (35f) had a lovely baby shower this weekend. We had about 35 guests in total, the weather was great, the food was incredible, the conversation was lively. All in all a big hit. Most people were very respectful, knowing that I am not a big toucher. I usually don’t mind people touching the belly when they ask. But somewhere about halfway through the event, enough alcohol had been drunk to where people that they could just come up and grab my literal stomach. I repeatedly said “he’s not kicking right now, you’re just touching my stomach.” But some people did NOT take the hint. MIL and my aunt were the worst offenders. Literally had to grab their hands and pry them off. Most everyone has been good about asking but I’ve noticed the later into my pregnancy I go, more people just say “is it ok” as their hand is literally on my stomach. If he’s kicking I WILL TELL YOU. Stop it! Rant over thanks.

Last year my 11yo daughter got really into reading. This of course made me ecstatic because I am a reader also. But no, she took off. Read like 60 books in less than a year. Now she’s started writing her own book (the one she’s doing now is more of a fanfic, but she’s pumping out like a full chapter a day, with plans to write her own original soon). How can I best support this? What recommendations would you have for an aspiring young author?

(I don’t expect her to actually publish anything in the next few years, but I want to support best I can and guide her.)

Last year my daughter got really into reading. This of course made me ecstatic because I am a reader also. But no, she took off. Read like 60 books in less than a year. Now she’s started writing her own book (the one she’s doing now is more of a fanfic, but she’s pumping out like a full chapter a day, with plans to write her own original soon). How can I best support this? What recommendations would you have for an aspiring young author?

(I don’t expect her to actually publish anything in the next few years, but I want to support best I can and guide her.)

27+6. I’m an idiot who couldn’t see past her already large stomach, slipped on a sock left on the stairs, and fell HARD on my ass. Took me like a full minute to get it together enough to get up. Felt baby movement. Thankfully had a 28wk appt today anyways and was about to head out the door for that.

Made it there, they do normal checks, hook me up to a monitor. See some heartbeat variations they don’t like that aren’t resolving after 30min and send me off to the hospital. I’ve had no bleeding, cramping, etc. (my only symptoms are a bruised ego and a more bruised butt cheek).

So I’ve been here for about 3 hours now. At first the doc said all looks good, then decided to keep me a little longer. Ordered ultrasound. Ultrasound looks good. Except… why are you down there placenta? Do a transvaginal ultrasound. Placenta previa…. Great. Apparently it moved in the wrong direction from since my anatomy scan (it was close but not previa). There go my VBAC dreams.

So now I’m just waiting on the Dr to come back in, hopefully just to tell me to take it easy and let me go home so I can stop sitting directly on my bruised butt. 🫠

I 35f am diagnosed recurrent major depressive disorder. A few years ago I burnt out (was doing work, school and volunteering) and had a major depressive response in addition to psychosis. It took years to recover and only in the last year was I feeling good again. Well, I’m currently 27w and elated to be pregnant again (other child is 11), despite all the negative side effects of pregnancy. Unfortunately I was supposed to start my masters program this fall, one month after my due date. I also work full time and bring in a sizable income. I realize I can’t do it all. I tried to reason with myself that I can not work and just do school and baby, but I realized I was being delusional. The lost income will hurt us, and I don’t want to be selfish. I’ve had a lot of cry sessions about it but haven’t emailed my school yet to withdraw. The other part is that I really just don’t want to return to work post baby. The thought gives me so much anxiety. I just want to stay home and raise him at least for a year, like I did with my other child. I’m just ranting because I’m not the type to complain to others. I’ll do what needs to be done. But since yesterday I have noticed physical symptoms of depression. It’s been creeping back in over the last month but yesterday and today it hit me like a truck. I feel miserable, numb. I’m seeing my PCP next week and considering asking to go back on meds maybe. I haven’t tried Wellbutrin. I heard it helps with adhd too. Guess we’ll see what she says. I had a therapist and psychiatrist for a while but they weren’t very helpful. I’ve had bad luck with therapists unfortunately. Maybe it’s me.