u/Independent-Hope-222

So I (28F) moved in with one of my best friends (28F) last year. We both got an apartment together, we’re both on the lease and both pay the same amounts. However, she try’s to control who I have over and when. I have been seeing a guy for almost a year now and him and I have both agreed my place is more comfortable to be at due to him having gross male roommates. Ever since we’ve moved in she’s had a problem with him coming over because she doesn’t “know” him even though they’ve shared convo here and there and have said hello multiple times. Him and I stay in my room EVERYTIME we hangout with the door closed, we never have ever used the living room. The only time we leave my room is to go to the kitchen to grab a drink or food. We try to be very mindful of sound and will lower the tv very low at night as well to be respectful. Thing is, he comes over maybe 2-3x a week after work, we both have one day off a week where we will spend the whole day together but it’s mostly just evenings. She feels like this is too much? She never leaves the house so therefore him and I never get privacy, shoot I don’t even get privacy myself. She asked me not to have him over on Sundays because of the beginning of the work week, which I accidentally had him over this past Sunday and I guess that just ticked her off even though again we just stay in my room. My thing is, I do everyyything around the house. I do the trash, I do all of the dishes majority of the time I even have to wash her dirty dishes off because she just sets them in the sink with food still on them, I have been the only one ever to vacuum/sweep/mop the floors, I constantly am wiping the counters down in the kitchen because she leaves messes on them. So my thing is, am I being unreasonable for thinking I should be allowed to have my ONE guest over a few times a week considering how much of a load I carry around this place? I do not work from home so therefore I spend majority of my time at work and even then for her to be home basically everyday she won’t pick up. I’m just kind of at a loss for words because this is a very close friend of mine but I feel like she is trying to control me and put me out to be the bad guy for having my partner over.

So I (28F) moved in with one of my best friends (28F) last year. We both got an apartment together, we’re both on the lease and both pay the same amounts. However, she try’s to control who I have over and when. I have been seeing a guy for almost a year now and him and I have both agreed my place is more comfortable to be at due to him having gross male roommates. Ever since we’ve moved in she’s had a problem with him coming over because she doesn’t “know” him even though they’ve shared convo here and there and have said hello multiple times. Him and I stay in my room EVERYTIME we hangout with the door closed, we never have ever used the living room. The only time we leave my room is to go to the kitchen to grab a drink or food. We try to be very mindful of sound and will lower the tv very low at night as well to be respectful. Thing is, he comes over maybe 2-3x a week after work, we both have one day off a week where we will spend the whole day together but it’s mostly just evenings. She feels like this is too much? She never leaves the house so therefore him and I never get privacy, shoot I don’t even get privacy myself. She asked me not to have him over on Sundays because of the beginning of the work week, which I accidentally had him over this past Sunday and I guess that just ticked her off even though again we just stay in my room. My thing is, I do everyyything around the house. I do the trash, I do all of the dishes majority of the time I even have to wash her dirty dishes off because she just sets them in the sink with food still on them, I have been the only one ever to vacuum/sweep/mop the floors, I constantly am wiping the counters down in the kitchen because she leaves messes on them. So my thing is, am I being unreasonable for thinking I should be allowed to have my ONE guest over a few times a week considering how much of a load I carry around this place? I do not work from home so therefore I spend majority of my time at work and even then for her to be home basically everyday she won’t pick up. I’m just kind of at a loss for words because this is a very close friend of mine but I feel like she is trying to control me and put me out to be the bad guy for having my partner over.