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UPDATE:

A lot of people asked for an update after my original post, and honestly I think I was still in denial when I wrote it.

My ex and I were together for a year and a half.

Before this person left to film a Netflix reality/game show, we were seriously talking about marriage and a future together. He was even upset that I wouldn’t marry him at the courthouse the day before filming started.

When he came back, something felt different almost immediately. Around that time, he told one of my friends the show might “make it look like” there was a romance storyline for ratings, and at the time I tried really hard to believe that explanation.

Since the breakup, multiple women have reached out to me independently with overlapping timelines and nearly identical experiences. What shocked me most was realizing many of them already knew about me while I had no idea they existed.

The contestant tied to the “storyline” he warned about is now the same person he’s publicly posting, traveling with, and seemingly in a relationship with, while I was simultaneously learning how many overlapping situations and connections there really were behind the scenes. It’s all been incredibly surreal and honestly humiliating for me and my family to process.

Looking back now, I can see patterns I ignored because I loved him. Anytime conflict happened, he would disappear for a day, become unreachable, then return acting like nothing happened.

I think the hardest part has been realizing how much I questioned my own instincts while multiple unrelated women were experiencing almost the exact same behaviors and confusion at the same time.

Watching someone carefully build a polished public image while privately creating confusion and overlapping relationships has honestly been surreal.

At this point I’m less focused on him and more focused on trying to understand how to trust my own judgment again after all of this.

How do you stop second-guessing yourself after realizing you ignored so many signs because you loved someone so deeply?

UPDATE:

A lot of people asked for an update after my original post, and honestly I think I was still in denial when I wrote it.

My ex and I were together for a year and a half.

Before this person left to film a Netflix reality/game show, we were seriously talking about marriage and a future together. He was even upset that I wouldn’t marry him at the courthouse the day before filming started.

When he came back, something felt different almost immediately. Around that time, he told one of my friends the show might “make it look like” there was a romance storyline for ratings, and at the time I tried really hard to believe that explanation.

Since the breakup, multiple women have reached out to me independently with overlapping timelines and nearly identical experiences. What shocked me most was realizing many of them already knew about me while I had no idea they existed.

The contestant tied to the “storyline” he warned about is now the same person he’s publicly posting, traveling with, and seemingly in a relationship with, while I was simultaneously learning how many overlapping situations and connections there really were behind the scenes. It’s all been incredibly surreal and honestly humiliating for me and my family to process.

Looking back now, I can see patterns I ignored because I loved him. Anytime conflict happened, he would disappear for a day, become unreachable, then return acting like nothing happened.

I think the hardest part has been realizing how much I questioned my own instincts while multiple unrelated women were experiencing almost the exact same behaviors and confusion at the same time.

Watching someone carefully build a polished public image while privately creating confusion and overlapping relationships has honestly been surreal.

At this point I’m less focused on him and more focused on trying to understand how to trust my own judgment again after all of this.

How do you stop second-guessing yourself after realizing you ignored so many signs because you loved someone so deeply?